​“Let Go”

What Does That Mean to You?

By Sara Jane

When someone tells you to “Let Go”, what does that mean to you?

To me I have always thought that it meant I would lose whatever or whoever it was, like trying to hold on in a raging river or gale force wind – you let go and it is lost to you forever.

So, is that why we are so hell bent on holding on to things, even if they no longer work for us, for fear of losing them completely?

I have come to understand that “Letting Go” is more a matter of “Freeing” something or someone, giving them free choice to stay or go.

Yes, you may still lose them but if they choose to stay, the energy of the relationship, the friendship is totally different.

It is lighter, more energised, more relaxed and free flowing and a lot healthier than trying to cling on for dear life.

The desperation, the insecurities, the frustration, the uncertainties evaporate – you and they are there because you choose to be, not because of invisible chains.

Look at your life, are you holding someone back or is someone holding you back?

Talk to them and listen to them, cut the chains and step into the freedom of choice.

Have you heard the saying “Let Go and Let God”?

Whatever you perceive God to be (Source, Creator, Great Mystery and so many other names), all this asks of us is that we offer the situation up and step back from the outcome.

Life goes on in the meantime but we stop “trying” so hard, we are honest with our self, we are true to our self and we let the other person or people be true to them self.

After all the majority of situations have other people involved.

Letting go can be the most empowering thing you can do for yourself and all those involved, it creates a more conducive energy for all involved to think more clearly, more realistically, more honestly and from the Heart and not the head.


I’m not sure who is guiding me with writing this article, however I am sure that that is what is happening.

I suppose for many years now I have just “trusted”.

I let go of outcomes, after all most of the time they are outside of my control and when it comes to the work I do with clients, it is, I feel, essential for me to stay detached from the outcome. That way I hope I enable them to fully use and be empowered by what we do together for their highest good.

When we get involved in other people’s stories we can add fuel to the fire rather than help them to put it out.

Another aspect of Letting Go is about your past, what has happened to you.

Yes, we do need to deal with it, acknowledge it and then let it go, we don’t live there anymore.

Letting Go is the most empowering thing we can do, after loving our self completely and unconditionally.

What has happened has happened, you can’t change it but you can learn from it and grow from it.

By letting it go you can use it as a stepping stone on your life path, if you hold on to it, it becomes a burden for you to carry around.

Love yourself enough to let go of all that no longer serves you, if it is to stay in your life, it will stay in a different more empowering form.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017