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Walking the Paths of our Life

Walking the Paths of our Life

Walking, putting one foot in front of the other again and again and again.

When we are born, we can’t even sit up without help but slow we build up strength in our muscles and one day we do it without help.

The more we move around the more curious we get and then we learn to crawl, we feel nothing is going to stop us.

We watch everyone around us, our parents are standing on their two long limbs, we want to do that, so we keep trying until one day we find we can do it too – we are walking, now nothing is going to stop us.

We discover we can walk and climb and skip and run and jump, what freedom, we can explore.

When we learn something new we are full of enthusiasm, there is a wonder to life, a childlike pleasure in all that surrounds us.

That beautiful curious child is still within us all, it is still wanting to explore, to watch, to listen, to learn, to feel, to experience what life has to offer.

Too many of us have stopped walking, stopped putting one foot in front of the other. Too many are stood still and have got so used to their surroundings that they don’t see it anymore.

It is time to re-kindle our childlike qualities of curiosity, to open our eyes and our ears, to take a step forward and another and re-explore our surroundings and to visit pastures new.

 Life is not about sitting still, it is about exploring the path you are on, taking detours, having fun, laughing, loving, crying, hoping, wishing, Being.

I love being out in nature, walking and exploring, I have taken all these pictures, Dartmoor, Arne, Brownsea Island, Bournemouth Sea Front, Corfe Castle and the folks behind the tree are my Mum and Youngest Sister.

If life has become a little static give yourself permission to take a step forward, step out of your comfort zone, feel the trepidation but also the exhilaration as you realise there is so much more to life than you have been experiencing.

Go for it, now is the time to walk in to your future.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

Pictures Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

Laughter: A Tonic for the Soul

Laughter: A Tonic for the Soul

“A smile is contagious, let's start an epidemic” I first read this while I was waiting for a blood test, it was on the wall of the cubicle and it has stuck with me ever since.

I did try researching the rest of these quotes about smiles and laughter but without much joy – hehe, please forgive the pun, it wasn’t intended.

A Laugh is a Smile that Bursts – Mary H. Waldrip

Laughter is the best Medicine

Smile and the world smiles with you, Cry and you cry alone

If someone doesn’t have a Smile of their own, give them one of yours

A Smile that touches your eyes, opens the windows to your Sole (not sure where this one came from, it may be from me).

Laugh, Laugh, Laugh

Says your Heart to your Lips

Smile, Smile, Smile

Says your Heart to your Eyes

Love, Love, Love

Says your Heart to your Mind

Open your eyes to the beauty that surrounds you

Smile as you witness the budding of a leaf

Smile as you see the blooming of a flower

Laugh as you watch the antics of the Animals

Share laughter with family and friends

Witness with Joy the growing up of your children

Let the sounds of laughter fill your house, your home

Listen for laughter everywhere you roam

Laughter is healing, it banishes the blues

Laughter is medicine, a tonic for your Soul

Laughter is a beautiful sound

The sound of joy and fun

The sound of children and play

Let your Inner Child out to play

Awaken the fun and joy within you

Feel your Heart swell and your mind relax

Life is a journey

A journey that should be filled with fun

Learn to play again, to dance again, to laugh again.

Love, Peace & Laughter

Sara Jane

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

Masking Your True Identity

Masking Your True Identity

Worzel Gummidge is a character in a late 1970’s British children’s program, a walking, talking scarecrow who had 3 different heads for different occasions.

How many heads or masks do you have? Are they all authentically you?

And what is the difference between a head and a mask?

Think about it, really think about it; are you “different” depending on who you are with?

Do you feel there are aspects of yourself that you should keep hidden?

How open are you about what you think?

Do you agree to “keep the Peace” or do you express your own opinion?

I know I have very strong opinions about certain things, however I also accept that we are all entitled to our own opinions.

There was a time, for many years, when I was a Yes girl, I would agree even if I didn’t because I didn’t have the courage to speak up.

I wore a mask that covered a very unhappy person, someone who felt unworthy, not good enough, unlovable and very insecure; the truth was I didn’t know who I was.

I get it, I really do.

The day I lifted my mask and stepped into BEING ME, was the most amazing relief and feeling of Freedom.

I realised I hadn’t needed to hide, that there will always be people who don’t like you or get you, whatever you do or say and that is Okay.

The only person you cannot hide from is yourself, it doesn’t matter how many different masks you wear, it is still you beneath them.

Even if you could change your head, your beauty comes from your Heart, which is your connection to your Soul.

We all are who we are and there will always be people who love us and those that don’t.

So, shed your masks, show the world the beautiful and amazing Being that You are, it is what it is waiting for.

Let us revisit having different heads.

Think about your working life, your home life and how you are when you are out with friends.

These are all aspects of you and sometimes they overlap but a lot of the time we keep them separate.

In our work environment, we are business like, when we are out with friends we let our hair down and when we are with our family we are aware of our responsibilities.

This was really bought home to me some years ago, when a friend died.

There is a group of us that like to dance, go for walks, spend time together and yes let our hair down. During our get togethers we would take pictures and when Graham died we collected photos of him and turned them into 3 collages which we give to his 3 adult children.

They loved them, a wonderful memento of their Dad but their comment was, this was a side of their Dad they had never seen, an aspect of his life they had not been aware of.

Masks hide us from the world but having different “heads” is just about compartmentalizing our lives and being true to ourselves in all of our life.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

What is Normal?

What is Normal?

Whose Definition is it any way?

By Sara Jane

Many years ago, as a teenager, my parents ran a small hotel in Torquay, Devon.

During June, we had a small groups come to stay of Nuns and ladies who were “Mentally Handicapped” (the old terminology).

Even then I remember thinking who is the one with the handicap, they were taken care of, they were kept safe and were encouraged to go out and experience – seemed like a great life to me and I felt that those of us that went out to work were the ones with the greatest handicap.

Fast forward to 2000 and the terminology had changed to “Learning Disability/Difficulty”.

I started volunteering for Poole Council as a Shared Carer/Befriender with adults with learning disabilities and remember having a conversation with one of my ladies about my teenage experience and thoughts.

Although her initial reaction to the old terminology wasn’t good, by the time I had finished sharing my feelings of the time, she was more relaxed and smiled, understanding what I was saying.

We all have things we are good at and those things we struggle with.

Who is anyone to judge another if they struggle with technology or can’t paint or play a musical instrument.

We are not all here to be surgeons, architects, maestros, firemen, racing drivers, ballet dancers and the list could go on & on.

What is your normal is not someone else’s normal; we all have our own normal; that which is normal for us.

There are many people that society labels as not normal but they have their own strengths, some of them are far more capable in some areas than people who have studied for years. They have an innate ability that enables them to do things without training.

Some of the most brilliant people have no common sense, they would struggle to boil an egg but that is overlooked because of their brilliance.

I struggled at school, back then I felt useless, no good at anything because most of the time what was highlighted was what I couldn’t do, the things I struggled with, rather than those things that I was good at.

The more we concentrate on what children and adults can do, the more confident they become and the more each will be able to do.

So what if you can’t paint or dance or play an instrument, so what if you struggle with complicated maths or learning languages.

Find what you enjoy, be true to your gifts, that is your normal.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

Learning to Be Comfortable in your own Skin

Learning to Be Comfortable in your own Skin

By Sara Jane

What do you consider “being comfortable” is?

Your answer will be different to everyone else’s.

Yes, even if you are in a long-term relationship or married, you will both answer from your own perspective and it will vary, even if only slightly, from your partner.

On the surface to the world everything may appear perfect, a loving relationship that is built on friendship.

There is a saying “everything in the garden is roses”.

I’ve been there, to all intents and purposes everything looked wonderful.

I had a man who loved me, we all but owned our house and had the money in the bank to pay it off.

We had 3 holidays every year, at least one abroad.

We were debt free and owned our cars.

How many of us would love to be in that position?

But I was so unhappy; he was a good man but I no longer loved him and didn’t know how to get out.

We lived in parallel comfort zones, his lined with rose petals and mine with rose thorns.

I was a fake purely because I didn’t know who I was.

I was scared to do or try so many things because I was afraid of what others would think.

So, I spent my life trying to please others with the hope that they would like me – even if only for a short while.

My wakeup call came in the form of a broken jaw (broken by a dentist extracting a wisdom tooth) followed by six months of pain and sleepless nights.

I no longer had the energy to constantly think about others, run our home, work full-time and study for an accountancy exam.

Then one day the penny dropped, it didn’t matter what others thought about me - if they even were, which they probably weren’t.

Providing I wasn’t deliberately hurting others, this was (and still is) my life to live, to experience, and my fear had been holding me back, seriously holding me back.

The day I learned to say No, was the day I stepped out of my comfort zone, I stopped being a fake and stepped into the unknown, to new possibilities; I started to find me.

I ended my marriage and moved; slowly a whole new world opened up for me.

Yes there were people who commented but I realised it was their stuff and I was able to let it go.

It was a few years later that I came across Neale Donald Walsch and the saying “Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone” and other such sayings and wisdom, that resonated so deeply with me.

For nearly 40 years I was a fake, a fraud, always trying to please others and never myself.

I cheated me.

Being comfortable prevents growth; not being true to yourself prevents growth.

Opening your heart and your mind to all the opportunities and possibilities that exist may have elements of discomfort but that is living, growing, experiencing and the discomfort in its own funny way is comforting.

Why?

Because I know I am Alive

Love, Peace & Light

Sara Jane

Copyright © Sara Jane 2016

Magic

There is Magic All Around

By Sara Jane

Close your eyes and imagine

Imagine there is nothing, you can’t see anything, it is black, there is nothingness. You can’t hear anything there is silence, you can’t feel anything.

Nothing – an existence without stimulation for your senses.

Slowly you become aware of a sound, of birds singing.

You become aware of your body, of your breathing, you try and move your legs, they move; you stretch and move your head, you sit up.

Is it getting lighter?

You look towards the window, there are clouds visible in the sky and the sky is turning blue.

The sun is rising

You can see the trees and the plants, the flowers, the birds, bees and butterflies.

You make your way outside and realise you can feel the breeze, the warmth of the sun, the grass beneath your feet.

The sounds around you are growing as all the creatures and people start their day.

Give yourself a gift, the gift of a day where you let yourself experience the magic of life.

Let yourself hear the sounds of nature, let yourself feel the wind, the rain, the sun, the grass, the sand between your toes, the waves as they wash over your feet.

Let yourself see the blue sky, the fluffy white clouds, the beautiful clouds of a thunderstorm, the flashes of lightning, the rain as it creates and then splashes in puddles, as it forms a stream, as it waters the Earth.

See the different greens of the leaves and the grasses, the colours of the flowers, the amazing canvas that is nature.

Let yourself smell the rain, the freshly mown grass, the flowers, the mountain and woodland air.

Fill your senses.

As the day comes to a close, watch the sun go down, the exquisite colours of the sunset and as the sky darkens see the stars come out and the moon throw a path of light on the sea or a lake.

Be aware of the night sounds and smells, let yourself feel at peace, as a part of this magic we call life.

First Published in The Magic Happens On-line Digital Magazine

Copyright © Sara Jane

What is a Hunch?

What is a hunch?

By Sara Jane

Think about it for a minute, which feeling do you call “a hunch”?

When I started to think about this I came to the conclusion that to me it is just another word for intuition or gut instinct.

You get “a hunch” that something feels “right” or “wrong”; so it is a “feeling”.

Do you listen to those “feelings”?

If you are anything like me you have had many occasions when you haven’t and later regretted it.

We get these “feelings” and then our head, mind, ego, whatever you wish to call it, chimes in “don’t be silly it’s just your imagination”, “ignore it, you want to do it, so do it” or “you can’t do that, what if this happens or that happens”.

Are you smiling? Can you hear these voices in your head?

Our minds/egos are very good at distorting our “feelings”, belittling them and we can be easily persuaded not to listen to the gentle voice of our soul.

Can you remember a time when you have acted on a hunch? When that niggling inner voice either didn’t get a chance to pipe up or you ignored it?

Think about it; look back on what happened and the outcome.

It may have been something very simple, it may have been something quite momentous; whatever it was, I’m guessing it was a positive outcome.

Open to your hunches, your intuition, they will not lead you astray and could be the start of many synchronistic happenings.

Many of the most amazing things that can happen in your life can be from you acting on a hunch or a whim.

Let variety and excitement into your life.

Listening has lead me on many an adventure, including going to Romania to work with the Carpathian Large Carnivore Project for 2 weeks in 2000.

I organised sponsored walks for adults with learning difficulties, including one with Wolves and arranging “Spirit of Freedom” a project which took people with learning difficulties to America to spend time with the Nez Perce Indians and to visit Yellowstone National Park.

Also learning Reiki and other complementary therapies and starting my own on-line TV program Gift of Healing TV.

Life has many gifts for us and sometimes they are “delivered” in hunches and intuition.

Let’s learn to throw caution to the wind and unwrap these gifts and listening to the hunches of warning.

Yes I have also had those and one such ended up with me going to the police about fraud; if I had listened to my initial instincts it would never have got that far.

Hunches are good and positive things, they are always worth listening to and following.

First shared in The Magic Happens Digital Magazine

Copyright © Sara Jane

Dramatic Occurrences

Dramatic Occurrences that become Pivotal Experiences

By Sara Jane

When you hear the word “dramatic” what do you think about?

Dramatic scenery, a dramatic occurrence, amateur dramatics …..

What do you consider to be a dramatic experience?

Drama happens in everyone’s life and for some it can start very young – here is a little of my story.

Early 1959, I’m not quiet one yet and I’m sat on the kitchen floor by the table, watching Mummy and playing.

There is a cloth on the table and then Mummy puts something on it, intrigued I pulled the cloth to see …..

She had just made a fresh cup of coffee with boiling milk; it went all over my face and neck and seeped into the jumper I was wearing.

I was immediately picked up and run under the cold tap and then Mummy ran over road with me to the doctors – no home phones and no car.

I was rushed to hospital; the biggest problem was that the jumper had struck to my skin just below my neck; the swift action had saved me from scarring on my face and most of my neck.

I was initially sent home after 5 days but because I wouldn’t leave the wound alone was taken back into hospital and was there for 3 months including my 1st Birthday, the only child in the burns unit.

In those days parents weren’t allowed to stay with their children, the rule was 1 hour every other day. Because of the distance my parents lived from the hospital and Mummy not driving, they actually only got to see me once a week.

This sort of separation has since been discovered to have a dramatic affect on children; simply put children go through 3 phases:

  1. The naughty phase in which they don’t stop crying – this is easy to help a child recover from
  2. The good phase in which the child stops crying and is very quiet – it is possible to help a child heal from this but it takes time
  3. Phase three; the child looses interest in the parents before they even leave the room – considered by most to have caused irreparable damage emotionally.

Mum has confirmed I hit phase three.

Thinking back about it as I write this, as dramatic and traumatic as the scalding was, it was the feelings of unworthiness, of being unloved, unwanted and not good enough caused by the separation that affected me the most.

Fast forward to December 1996, I was sat in the dentist’s chair having a wisdom tooth extracted. I’d had 2 or was it 3 injections to numb the area, the dentist was really struggling, the tooth was putting up a great fight – crack and then another.

I was told not to worry and with the tooth removed my husband took me home.

As the injections wore off I was in so much pain, I found myself sitting with my face against a hot radiator.

Over the next week the pain eased but I was having more and more difficulty eating and cleaning my teeth. As I lay in bed one night it felt like my jaw moved in a way that it shouldn’t.

My husband took me to the hospital and long story short they x-rayed and discovered my jaw was broken.

The upshot was 6 months of pain and sleepless nights and now I see it as an amazing gift, a pivotal moment in my life, that was my wake-up call, that helped me to find myself and to really start living my life.

Never judge what can have a dramatic affect on someone, it can be as simple as a single word, especially to a child.

Traumatic experiences can have a dramatic affect and each one of us will react in a different way, it really depends on previous experiences.

Sometimes what appears to be “bad” can be the greatest gift – Love yourself, All of You, You are Special.

First shared in The Magic Happens Digital Magazine

Copyright © Sara Jane

Life: A Risky Business

Life: A Risky Business

By Sara Jane

Risk: the possibility of suffering harm or loss; danger

What risks are you taking on a daily basis?

Or do you prefer to live your life without taking any?

Well here is some food for thought for you to consider “Doing nothing can be more risky than going something”.

Being afraid to go out “just in case …..” holds its own risks.

  • First it can affect your health – no fresh air and sunshine is bad for you; this also usually means a lack of exercise. They are all essential for good health.
  • If you only do the minimum such as go to work and come home again to minimise risk – Do you drive a car? You are getting into a lethal weapon. If you catch a bus, you are a passenger in an even bigger lethal weapon. If you walk are you really any safer?

So bearing in mind that every day you take risks, why not make them risks worth taking?

Step out of your comfort zone, start to live your life and you will discover that “risking” nothing was a bigger risk than taking the plunge.

Life is for living, for experiencing; free yourself from fear.

Fear is: False Evidence Appearing Real

Risk is: Rejoicing In Scary Kicks

Yes you should get a kick out of life; fun and laughter, embracing change.

Ignore the worry mongers, the “what ifs”, the “what about” and all the other excuses you find not to do something.

Listen to your heart, listen to your feelings, listen to your intuition, listen to your gut instincts.

Quiet your mind, feel the fear and do it anyway.

In April I was treated to the experience of the Zip Wire in Bournemouth where I live.

Right up to the point of stepping off the platform I was fine, even relaxed and confident.

Suddenly all my nerves jangled, what was I doing; I had to step off the platform and rely on the ropes to hold me.

Yes I felt the fear, but I had been looking forward to doing it; I wasn’t really afraid, for goodness sake I had abseiled off the Water Tower in Poole.

So I took a deep breath and stepped off, it was great and I am so pleased I did it.

Think about your life, think about the mad and crazy things you have done.

Remember the feelings, the exhilaration, the laughter, the joy, the fun.

With every risk you take, with every new experience you grow and you become more of the person you are meant to be.

If you are encouraged to do something that feels wrong to you, have the courage to risk saying NO.

Yes “risk” comes in many forms but better to risk a faulty misjudgment of you, than to risk the feelings and consequences of doing what you know to be “wrong”.

Always Be True to YOU

zipwire-experience

Yes this is me on the Zip Wire

First shared in the Digital Magazine “The Magic Happens”

Copyright © Sara Jane

Masterpiece

what-masterpiece-are-you-creating

By Sara Jane

A Masterpiece does not start with the completed article.

The book is empty pages, the canvas is blank, the sculpture is a solid block of wood, marble or whatever the material; the bust, piece of ceramic or formed glass starts as a blob of the raw material.

Everything starts as a project, an idea, a thought in the head and imagination of the individual who goes on to create it.

Everyone is an artist in their own way, everything you create, whatever it may be is your work of art; so here we will use the word artist and know that this includes YOU.

You start with a project in mind and to get the most from it and to give the most to it you have to understand it, to understand what you want to get out of it and what you hope others will also get from it.

Have the courage to listen to your intuition, let your imagination run riot, research and learn, help yourself to understand all the energies of this project, the beauty, the intricacies, even if you don’t understand the reasoning.

Have you got a project on the go or are you looking to start one?

You can create a Masterpiece but you have to start at the beginning, you have to start with the raw materials and shape them to fit into your creation.

If you are working with other people, all listen to each other.

Sometimes the energies may not work, don’t try and change someone, you can’t change a set piece of clay; let them go if it isn’t working.

You may need to change tack and that is why it is so important to understand and listen.

Masterpieces are created, worked on, changed, adjusted; they take time, patients, belief; don’t try and run, take it one step at a time.

Just like when you learned to walk, first you had to crawl then stand up, then start to put one foot in front of the other while holding on to furniture, then you let go and walk, running came last.

Yes your project is one masterpiece that you are working on but there is another which has been in progress since the day you were born.

You are a Masterpiece in progress – yes you are, you are creating the Masterpiece that is YOU.

Your physical being is a project for your Spirit. Your experiences in this life help your spirit to understand and grow.

Every time you are yourself, you listen to your heart, your intuition, your gut instincts you are creating the Masterpiece that is you.

Yes your Spirit knows everything but it lives in Love, everything in Spirit is Love and the experiences it has with you here in the physical builds the Masterpiece that you are.

So trust and believe in yourself, in the gifts that you receive as gifts from your spirit.

Not everything may feel like a gift but some of the most previous gifts you receive come disguised.

Open your eyes, ears and heart to the many masterpieces that surround you, that are gifted to you every day; know that you are one of those for others, just as others are for you.

Perfection is Uniqueness and Uniqueness is Perfection

First Published in “The Magic Happens” Digital Magazine

Copyright © Sara Jane

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