Life: What’s it all about?

Life: What’s it all about?

By Sara Jane

Life. Have you ever asked yourself or thought about why you are here?

Many have and either we can’t answer the question or there are many different answers.

Are we here to earn lots of money?

Are we here to own a big house?

Are we here to have a big flashy car?

Are we here to travel the world?

Are we here to marry and have children?

Are we here to write an amazing piece of music or a best seller?

Are we here to win a race or competition?

Are we here to make a difference in someone else’s life?

Are we here to be of service or be served?

It could be all of these or none of them.

If you have asked yourself this question or asked it of others, think about the answer or answers you have received – do any of them resonate with you?

This is a question that seems to raise more questions than answers.

Having read the first 3 “Conversations with God” books by Neale Donald Walsch, I have found an answer that feels right for me.

We are here to experience.

Experience what? Everything.

Light & dark. Heat & cold. Wealth & poverty. Health & ill health, the list goes on.

Why would we do that I can hear some of you ask?

That is because, for me, you are thinking with your human mind, the monkey mind that sees “good” and “bad”.

Why would we choose anything that we label “bad”. We wouldn’t but our Soul does.

My understanding is that we all come from love, our Soul lives permanently in the light of love, connected to our Creator and to each other.

Therefore, our Soul only knows Love and takes the opportunity when it spends a short time inhabiting a human body, a flesh covered skeleton, to learn and experience itself more fully and it can only do this by choosing different experiences.

I am sure you have heard it said, “how can you know light if you don’t know the dark?”, “how can you know Love if you don’t know hate?”

So, I see it that we are here to get to know ourselves, to learn, to grow from the experiences we have chosen before we inhabit this body and will choose before we inhabit the next one.

So why are we here? We are here to experience all of the above and so much more over many lifetimes.

As each lifetime ends, we return to that place of Love, to fully encompassing being a Soul of pure love. A Soul that resides in us all, until we choose the next group of experiences that supports the growth and understanding of the beautiful Being that each and every one of us is.

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No Mistakes – No Regrets

No Mistakes – No Regrets

By Sara Jane

Is there such a thing as a Mistake?

What do you understand by the word Mistake?

The dictionary* definition is “An error or fault. A misconception or misunderstanding”

Let’s take these one at a time shall we

Error – we are all very aware of the errors that occur using technology, the program is only as good as the code input and if there has been a mistype, that can cause real issues with a system.

But what about in your own life, do you make errors or is it just that you have made the best choice you felt you could with the information you had at the time?

Personally, I don’t see them as errors, you have had the courage to take action with the knowledge you had and now you have more knowledge. With the increased knowledge you may realise that there are now other alternatives and you wouldn’t do the same thing again but you have learnt and grown.

Fault – this word to me implies that someone is judging another, again from my perspective, unless you have lived my life and walked in my shoes, you have no idea the information and understanding of things that I have, so there is no fault.

It may be a “bad” outcome for them and an excellent outcome for someone else, it is all about perspective.

Misconception / Misunderstanding – Although there may be many similarities in the way we are raised, our family lives and experiences can be very different and this “colours” our understanding of words and actions.

Your intended meaning may be fully understood by one person and completely misunderstood by another and all the levels in between.

If in doubt ask, many an argument or disagreement could be resolved if only we would talk to each other and get clarification that the meaning we read into it, is the meaning intended.

Never regret being yourself, never regret doing anything you have done with the best of intentions.

The only thing I would say, is if your intention is to do something nice for someone, make sure it is something they would really like, just because we may appreciate it, doesn’t mean another will. If in doubt, always ask.

So, are there ever really any misstates? No, just the best action with the knowledge we have at the time and you don’t have to listen to other people’s judgement of you, that is their stuff not yours.

Therefore, is there any reason for regrets? No not if your intention is good and you live from your heart.

Namaste Sweet Soul

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*From the Readers Digest Great Illustrated Dictionary

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Love is the Greatest Healer

Love Is The Greatest Healer

By Sara Jane

Love is the greatest healer and let that love start with you.

Whatever is going on in the world around you, tap into the love that is your true being.

Love can support you through anything.

Love, can heal the hurt others, knowingly or unknowingly inflict on you.

When you love yourself and know your own worth, no one can take that away from you.

Love is a selfless act of caring, of being true to you.

When you truly love yourself, you will bring more love, caring, understanding, empathy to others.

Hold love in your heart and offer it to everyone, no exceptions.

Everyone needs to feel loved, whatever their age, their circumstances, their actions.

Those that require love most are those that don’t love themselves, they have never been taught that it is OK to be the love of your own life, and so they hurt others because that is how they feel.

When you are completely comfortable with yourself, you have no need to prove anything to anyone, no need to strike out, bully, belittle anyone else, to make yourself appear “big”.

When you love yourself, your beauty shines from within and any insecurities you may have will melt away.

Love can heal the greatest of traumas and bring peace into your life.

Get to know yourself and if there is anything you don’t like, acknowledge it and grow from it into a better you, a more loving you.

You can choose in any given moment who you are and how you wish to behave.

Trust your gut, your feelings, your intuition, the love in your heart, they will not let you down.

Let yourself be the Love of your own life

Namaste Sweet Soul

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Revenge versus Forgiveness

Revenge versus Forgiveness

By Sara Jane

“If you want revenge because your feelings are hurt, all you can see is your own suffering.

But if you calm yourself and look more deeply, you will see that the person who hurt you is suffering too.”

~ Haemin Sunim from “The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down”

When we feel hurt, many of us react, respond as an automatic reaction.

However, if we take a step back and allow ourselves to really look at our feelings and the situation, perhaps we could find the truth of the situation.

What are you feeling Hurt or Angry about?

If hurt, why are you feeling hurt?

Do you see any truth in what has been said to you or about you?

If there is some truth, is it an uncomfortable truth that you realise is for you to “deal” with and is your reaction more akin to embarrassment?

Or a truth that is part of who you are and the discomfort is the other persons, not yours?

If angry, why are you feeling angry?

Is it a lie or something you feel is very unjustified?

Has it touched a raw spot in you?

Other people’s behaviour is down to them, your behaviour is your responsibility.

When you react hastily you could be compounding a hurt that the other individual has experienced and they are still in reaction mode or worse still revenge mode “someone is going to pay for that and I don’t care who”.

As the saying goes “Revenge is like a hot coal you hold in your hand and expect the other person to get burned”, while it festers in you, it does more damage to you than anyone else.

Should people get away with rude and nasty behaviour – no but sometimes the best course of action is to walk away, to maintain your own peace and “let them stew in their own juices” and you won’t be “adding fuel to the fire”.

Hopefully the next time you see them they will be in a better frame of mind and you can ask them how they are, how life is treating them?

If they are willing to talk and share, you may get to find out why they behaved in the way they did and come to realise that it had nothing to do with you, you were just the nearest verbal punching bag.

By all means let them know how it made you feel, you could even suggest that if it occurs again, please talk to me rather than do what they did.

Taking a deep breath and talking rather than reacting can stop a lot of unnecessary hurt and pain and prevent the need for either revenge or forgiveness – supporting love and understanding for ourselves and each other.

It is time to unlearn so many of our reactions, they have served their purpose and passed their sell by date by many years.

You are a Beautiful being of Light

“May the Energy of the Divine that Resides in us All Touch our Hearts and Fill them with Love for Ourselves and Each Other” ~ Sara Jane

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Healing Frequency Sounds

Healing Frequency Sounds

By Sara Jane

Sound can hurt and sound can heal.

Think about the Sounds that surround you on a daily basis.

From your alarm going off first thing in the morning, the different music you may hear on the radio, some of which you enjoy and others that grates on your nerves.

The sound of doors closing and horns blasting, the rumble of traffic, the cries of children the voices all around you, some happy, some angry, some sad.

The sound of phones ringing, the tip tapping on a keyboard and so much more, all of which assault your ears.

This myriad of sound can affect your energy levels and your overall wellbeing.

Perhaps it would be interesting to make a list of all the different sounds that you hear in a normal day and rate how they make to feel.

There are healing frequencies (hertz) that you can listen to, to help different areas of your body and support you.

Here are just a few of them and their benefits:

174Hertz is associated with the reduction of both pain and stress.

285 Hertz is considered instrumental in the healing of cuts, burns and other physical wounds, activating the body into cellular regeneration.

396Hertz the frequency associated with the removal of fear and other negative feelings. It balances the root or base chakra

417Hertz focuses on the removal of negative energy including those around past trauma, helping to dissolve emotional blockages and activate the sacral chakra.

432 Hertz supports the heart chakra. Listening to this frequency is believes to lead to greater levels of mental and emotional clarity.

528Hertz known as the love frequency, or “miracle note” and has been used by Indigenous Peoples as a sound associated with blessings for centuries.

639 Hertz also affects the heart chakra. Associated with supporting the production of positive feelings and more harmonious relationships, encouraging clearer communication practices.

852 Hertz is a tone associated with redirecting the mind away from overthinking, intrusive thoughts and negative thought patterns.

963 Hertz frequencies are associated with the activation of higher spiritual development. It is known as the “pure miracle tone” and the “frequency of the gods”.

These are just some of the instruments used in sound frequency therapy:

  • Didgeridoo
  • Drums
  • Gongs
  • Pan Pipes
  • Rainstick
  • Singing bowls
  • Tuning Forks
  • Windchimes

If you wish to explore these healing sounds for yourself, my suggestion is put Hertz Music into your search engine and you will find many pieces available to listen to.

Namaste Sweet Souls

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What is the Unconscious Mind?

What is the Unconscious Mind?

By Sara Jane

I was having a conversation with a guest on Gift of Healing TV recently and the Unconscious mind was mentioned.

I have heard this term for a long time but not really understood what it is.

Suddenly the answer, for me, was in my head, it is our learned behaviours.

We don’t have to remember every experience we have ever had but our reactions to all those experiences have been stored in our unconscious mind, they are our learned behaviours.

Have you ever thought “why does this keep happening to me?”

I know I have and the reason is because we keep reacting in the same way.

The key is to react in a different way, to create a different outcome.

How do we do that, truthfully, for many of us it is difficult without some form of help or support because it is an automatic reaction, we just don’t think about it, we just do it.

There are many techniques and practices that can support us with letting go of old unwanted behaviours, from beautiful relaxing therapies such as Metamorphic Technique which helps change the energy pathways in our body and supports us to move forward in our life, to NLP and Hypnotherapy and so many more.

Most of our learned behaviours come from our childhood and some of them come from experience of trauma or being hurt, both physically and emotionally. They are reactions that we have put in place to “protect” us.

However most, if not all of these “protections”, are no longer valid for the adult but the child in us all is still hurting.

There are many people who are helping us heal our Inner Child, that beautiful innocent little being that resides in us all.

I am one of them.

The traumas and hurt of my childhood, left me feeling unwanted, unloved, not good enough, unworthy…

I became a people pleaser for nearly 40 years until my “wake-up call” which helped me to have the courage to start living my life.

My healing journey is still on going and it all really started when I learned Reiki, then Metamorphic Technique and learned about Sound Energy in the form of Toning, the use of the voice but not singing.

Slowly over the years as I have healed my Inner Child and grown more confident in myself. I have developed a technique I call Vocal Reiki, using the Reiki energy alongside Toning.

I support people to reconnect with their younger self at the time of hurt, pain, trauma but not to revisit the actual experience. Helping them to comfort their younger self, supporting them to feel loved and heard, breaking the chains of the learned protective behaviours that have become more destructive than protective.

Our unconscious mind can be a real treasure but it can also be what holds us back from truly living our lives.

Namaste Sweet Soul

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Structures, Should They Be Flexible?

Structures, Should They Be Flexible?

By Sara Jane

When you think of Structure, do you think of something rigid?

Do you have a structure to your day? And if you do, how flexible is it?

Let’s start with nature, take a tree for example, as they grow they become very thick/broad in the trunk to carry the weight of the branches and leaves but they aren’t rigid, they can move with the wind, flexing so as not to break.

Many plants, shrubs, grasses are the same, they may be fixed in one spot by their roots but they can move with the wind.

They have all developed a structure that supports their survival in the harshest of conditions because they can be flexible.

Think about buildings, especially very tall buildings, built in earthquake prone areas, they are built with some “flexibility” to help them survive earthquakes and storms.

With all of these, they have strong roots or foundations that support the structure to have an element of flexibility.

Do you have any form of structure in your life? Be it a morning or evening routine, a to do list for your day, a diary of meetings or events for your children.

How flexible are you with your routine, does it have some give in it?

Structure can help us to achieve on a daily basis and is very important in business and the organisation of family life but it is also important to allow space for fun and laughter, a spur of the moment change of plans.

A little give can bring a lot of fun and life is meant to be fun.

If you have a structured life, do you schedule in some “Me-Time”, time to relax and unwind, time for peace and quiet, regeneration time, so that your battery is re-charged?

So many think they have to keep going until the job is done, then they can relax. The truth is by allowing some re-charge time when you start to feel tired, you can clear your mind, the fog that is slowing you down and when you come back to the job in hand, you can complete it so much more quickly.

For many years (over 20 years), I have allowed myself to go for at least one walk during the day, even when I was working in an office. This time out, has allowed me to get some fresh air, sunshine and given me time to clear my mind and has helped me achieve so much more than constant slog.

Structure is good but for me it should always have flexibility to be able to live life.

Namaste Sweet Soul

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Music is a Vibration

Music is a Vibration

By Sara Jane

“If Music be the Food of Love Play on” from Twelfth Night by William Shakespeare

I am sure that a lot of you are aware of the above saying and many enjoy listening to music for different reasons.

Have you ever thought about the reasons you listen to music and the affects the different styles have on you?

Music is sound and sound is energy and vibration. We are also a vibration.

Sound can hurt and sound can heal.

Think about the music you hear, depending on your mood, your frame of mind, what is going on in your life; different types of music affect you in differing ways.

For most when you are trying to relax, you prefer to listen to calming, gentle music which may include the sounds of nature, rather than more lively music such as rock or a rousing piece of classical music.

If you enjoy doing the housework to music, many will choose something lively to move along too, keep the energy up.

Then there are other pieces of music that really do not resonate with you, they feel as if they are grating on your nerves, disrupting your energy.

As a complementary therapist I play music for my clients, very occasionally someone prefers the silence, it is always what feels right for you at the time, any time.

For me personally I have a CD that I play as I go to sleep at night and a different one for when I give myself a Reiki session, others that I use for doing the housework and ironing.

I suggest choosing the music that helps lift you, whether that is to relax by or to energise you, to calm you or motivate you and whenever you can avoid the music that agitates you.

The vibration of sound affects your vibration, calming it, agitating it or energising it. Always go with what feels right for you at the point in time that you are listening to it.

Even if it is something that you have on in the background, not really taking any notice of it, it is affecting your energy. Suggestion choose the music you play to suit the way you wish to feel.

Remember all the sounds that surround you are affecting you, the right music can help to negate the more disruptive sound vibrations, keeping you more relaxed.

Just finally, I don’t know about Music being the Food of Love, but it can certainly be the Food of Life, nourishing us in so many ways.

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Unity of Self

Unity of Self

By Sara Jane

I am sharing this from my own understanding and experiences.

Looking back, I spent many years of my life feeling “in pieces”, with bits of me separated from me due to things that had happened and the way they made me feel about myself.

I will briefly share some of the more major things that happened that helped me disconnect from my true self, leaving me feeling unwanted, unloved, not good enough, unworthy and so much more.

Not long before my 1st Birthday (62 years ago at time of writing), an accident meant I was scolded by a boiling milk coffee that went all over my face and neck, causing the jumper I was wearing to stick to me skin.

I was hospitalised for 3 months with the hospital rules being that parents could visit for an hour every other day. The reality was once a week for an hour.

My parents had moved by the time I was allowed home, so it was to unfamiliar surroundings and Mum was pregnant with my Sister Gillian who was born August 1959 and died 9 weeks later.

Although there were other things that followed this was the grounding that left me feeling the way I did about myself and I became a people pleaser with the hope that I would be liked, even if only for a short period.

My wake-up call came in the form of a broken jaw, caused by a dentist extracting a wisdom tooth. I didn’t know it was broken for a week and the result was 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

Only as I am writing this does the irony hit me that it was a wisdom tooth and the support this experience gave me to tape into my own wisdom and understanding.

Within me was a traumatised child who felt rejected.

My healing journey really started with learning Reiki and Metamorphic Technique. They opened me to an understanding that when we are young and don’t know how to deal with things that hurt us, we detach or compartmentalise that part of us.

As we get older, if we feel we don’t have time to deal with something, we again put it to one side, usually never to be revisited.

But they don’t go away.

When working with a client one day I became aware that our Solar Plexus is like a well that we deposit everything undealt with in and it festers until eventually it causes a problem with our health.

As part of the work I bring now, I help people reconnect with and heal the younger selves. Supporting them to reintegrate them back into their life and start the process of becoming whole again.

I have done this for myself, the baby girl who felt so unloved and alone, is now comfortable and confident in my love and very much a part of who I am.

Yes, the most important person to love us, is ourselves and we are the only ones who can heal ourselves, yes with support but no one can do it for you.

With every layer of the onion comes a new healing a new reconnection and a new unity of self; confidence and belief in ourselves, a love that supports us to be our true self in all the glory that we are here to bring.

Whatever has happened in your life, know that you are worthy of all the love you give to others and that love should come from you first for every aspect of you, regardless of what you have been through.

My childhood experiences, along with my wake-up call in my late 30’s were a gift that now supports me to support others on their own healing journey to bring them Unity of Self.

I love this quote and feel it is relevant to what I have shared above.

“As traumatised children we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed it would in fact be ourselves as adults” ~ Alice Little

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Let Nature Be Your Guide

Let Nature Be Your Guide

By Sara Jane

There is so much we can learn from Nature, patients, perseverance, to rest, to Be.

There is a lovely quote along the lines of “Nature doesn’t hurry but everything gets done”.

The seasons come and go, the sun shines, it rains and snows, the winds blow, the flowers bloom and turn into seeds and fruits.

None of it is a competition, each knows what they are here for and they do it, beautifying the world, feeding us and the rest of Nature.

Nature knows how to Be in balance and she takes care of us.

Pick an aspect of Nature and let yourself think about the process of its life, the cycle that it goes through.

You could take rain, it falls to earth, watering all that it falls on, adding to the rivers and streams, the lakes, oceans and seas.

The sun shines and it evaporates back up into the sky and forms clouds that again bring rain.

All very simply put but that is the cycle and it works beautifully to support life here on Earth.

Trees and plants drop their seeds and grow new plants supporting the cycle of life.

Animals have young, as do humans, to support the ongoing cycle of life.

How complicated are you making your life?

Nature keeps it simple; she has found what works to support all life, with the inclusion of fire, storms and floods, that in their own way support clearing and regeneration.

She understands the importance of rest, of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace.

She has created diversity to support the whole of nature and every creature has its place and worth.

Nature gives us food and healing plants; she supplies us with all we need to live and thrive.

When Nature is out of balance it affects all life, including our own as we are all intertwined.

Let Nature be your guide, look to her to live a fulfilled life and to evolve into the amazing being you are, just like the Butterfly discovering your wings following a period of change.

2020 was a very difficult year for many, was this our period of change and growth, can you now spread your wings and fly in the full glory of who you are as a part of our beautiful Natural World?

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