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Unity of Self

Unity of Self

By Sara Jane

I am sharing this from my own understanding and experiences.

Looking back, I spent many years of my life feeling “in pieces”, with bits of me separated from me due to things that had happened and the way they made me feel about myself.

I will briefly share some of the more major things that happened that helped me disconnect from my true self, leaving me feeling unwanted, unloved, not good enough, unworthy and so much more.

Not long before my 1st Birthday (62 years ago at time of writing), an accident meant I was scolded by a boiling milk coffee that went all over my face and neck, causing the jumper I was wearing to stick to me skin.

I was hospitalised for 3 months with the hospital rules being that parents could visit for an hour every other day. The reality was once a week for an hour.

My parents had moved by the time I was allowed home, so it was to unfamiliar surroundings and Mum was pregnant with my Sister Gillian who was born August 1959 and died 9 weeks later.

Although there were other things that followed this was the grounding that left me feeling the way I did about myself and I became a people pleaser with the hope that I would be liked, even if only for a short period.

My wake-up call came in the form of a broken jaw, caused by a dentist extracting a wisdom tooth. I didn’t know it was broken for a week and the result was 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

Only as I am writing this does the irony hit me that it was a wisdom tooth and the support this experience gave me to tape into my own wisdom and understanding.

Within me was a traumatised child who felt rejected.

My healing journey really started with learning Reiki and Metamorphic Technique. They opened me to an understanding that when we are young and don’t know how to deal with things that hurt us, we detach or compartmentalise that part of us.

As we get older, if we feel we don’t have time to deal with something, we again put it to one side, usually never to be revisited.

But they don’t go away.

When working with a client one day I became aware that our Solar Plexus is like a well that we deposit everything undealt with in and it festers until eventually it causes a problem with our health.

As part of the work I bring now, I help people reconnect with and heal the younger selves. Supporting them to reintegrate them back into their life and start the process of becoming whole again.

I have done this for myself, the baby girl who felt so unloved and alone, is now comfortable and confident in my love and very much a part of who I am.

Yes, the most important person to love us, is ourselves and we are the only ones who can heal ourselves, yes with support but no one can do it for you.

With every layer of the onion comes a new healing a new reconnection and a new unity of self; confidence and belief in ourselves, a love that supports us to be our true self in all the glory that we are here to bring.

Whatever has happened in your life, know that you are worthy of all the love you give to others and that love should come from you first for every aspect of you, regardless of what you have been through.

My childhood experiences, along with my wake-up call in my late 30’s were a gift that now supports me to support others on their own healing journey to bring them Unity of Self.

I love this quote and feel it is relevant to what I have shared above.

“As traumatised children we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed it would in fact be ourselves as adults” ~ Alice Little

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Let Nature Be Your Guide

Let Nature Be Your Guide

By Sara Jane

There is so much we can learn from Nature, patients, perseverance, to rest, to Be.

There is a lovely quote along the lines of “Nature doesn’t hurry but everything gets done”.

The seasons come and go, the sun shines, it rains and snows, the winds blow, the flowers bloom and turn into seeds and fruits.

None of it is a competition, each knows what they are here for and they do it, beautifying the world, feeding us and the rest of Nature.

Nature knows how to Be in balance and she takes care of us.

Pick an aspect of Nature and let yourself think about the process of its life, the cycle that it goes through.

You could take rain, it falls to earth, watering all that it falls on, adding to the rivers and streams, the lakes, oceans and seas.

The sun shines and it evaporates back up into the sky and forms clouds that again bring rain.

All very simply put but that is the cycle and it works beautifully to support life here on Earth.

Trees and plants drop their seeds and grow new plants supporting the cycle of life.

Animals have young, as do humans, to support the ongoing cycle of life.

How complicated are you making your life?

Nature keeps it simple; she has found what works to support all life, with the inclusion of fire, storms and floods, that in their own way support clearing and regeneration.

She understands the importance of rest, of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace.

She has created diversity to support the whole of nature and every creature has its place and worth.

Nature gives us food and healing plants; she supplies us with all we need to live and thrive.

When Nature is out of balance it affects all life, including our own as we are all intertwined.

Let Nature be your guide, look to her to live a fulfilled life and to evolve into the amazing being you are, just like the Butterfly discovering your wings following a period of change.

2020 was a very difficult year for many, was this our period of change and growth, can you now spread your wings and fly in the full glory of who you are as a part of our beautiful Natural World?

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video above

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Unravelling the Costumes of Life

Unravelling the Costumes of Life

By Sara Jane

I looked up the meaning of costumes in the Reader’s Digest Illustrated Dictionary, you will find the definition at the foot of the article.

If you would prefer to listen to an audio of this article, you can listen to me read it below.

When I started thinking about costumes the first things that came into my head were swimsuits, then those worn by actors and actresses, then dancers and even members of a band, choir or orchestra.

What were your first thoughts?

Then I took my thoughts deeper and the title for the article came to mind. How many different types of clothes do we wear during our lives and are not many of these costumes?

Let’s explore further and see how many costumes you have worn in your life.

Starting from birth, especially at the time I was born, parents were more likely to dress the little girls in pink and the little boys in blue, so that when they were pushing their tiny little baby around, people would know if it was a girl or boy.

They may still do that but I have the feeling things have changed a little.

Then little girls wear skirts and dresses, and little boys wear trousers and shorts, well back in the 1950’s and to a degree in the 1960’s but all appears to have changed now.

If you are part of a religion there are outfits to do with religious services, Christenings/Baptisms maybe Christenings gowns, Holy Communion, Confirmation. Certainly, within the Roman Catholic Church the little white dress and veil, for the girls that is (smile), White shirts, black ties and shorts for the boys

They are costumes which show what is going on in your life.

Schools have uniforms which denote the school you go to, it is like a costume.

Going to work, do you have some sort of uniform? That uniform could be that you ware a suit as I have done in past employment.

Do you have to wear an overall? again I have done that.

Do you have to wear specific boots to protect your feet or head gear to protect your head?

The clothes and the equipment you wear again denote what you do and differentiate you from other people that may be wandering around, think about nurses and doctors, policemen and firemen, service men and women etc

If you are going to a Ball, you are not likely to be wearing jeans, you are more likely to be wearing a gown or dinner suit.

If you are going to a Pop Concert, the clothes you wear will be those that you feel are appropriate, which may not be appropriate to some but it will to you.

Whatever you are doing, the clothes you wear are a costume but they do not say WHO you are, just what is going on in your life at that point in time.

A funeral, the done thing is to wear black, navy blue, dark colours to be in mourning and respectful.

My Mother bucked the trend of that with my Dad when he past because I had a lovely pair of patchwork, very colourful trousers and apparently Dad loved to see me in those, so she asked me to wear them for his funeral, that included standing on the alter to read a piece from the Bible.

For me it was an honouring of my Pop, rather than the sadness that goes with funerals.

Are you truly honouring yourself in those times you can?

What are the clothes that you wear, look at them, are they you?

How many of the clothes that you wear are You, are that very unique special Being that you are, that you feel comfortable in, that you feel shows the world who you are, not the role you are in?

The clothes we wear are a costume.

We can take it a step further to adornments, jewellery.

Think about relationships, especially romantic ones that lead to an engagement and the fiancé wears an engagement ring it denotes that she is spoken for and then when they marry, she wears a wedding ring, so do many men.

That is part of a costume that shows that they are part of a couple, in the old days, it would show that the woman has become a chattel and belonged to the man.

Look around you are the clothes everybody wears, do you think that is really them or is it a fashion statement or something else?

Look at the clothes you have in your wardrobe what are the costumes, what do each of those items of clothing mean to you, what are they trying to show people about you?

Unravel the costumes in your life, the ones you have worn in the past, think about it, how many of those costumes were really you?

And I am going to take a bit of a punt here and say probably not many.

Are you ready to step out from behind those costumes, into ones that tell people more about who you are rather than what you do or what you are participating in?

This is your life, it is for you to live.

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Pictures are all of Sara Jane and remain her property.

Costume meaning: A complete style of dress including clothes, accessories and often hair style. Characteristics of a particular country, period or people.

A set of clothes worn for s play, film, fancy-dress ball or the like, designed to give the wearer the appearance of the role that he or she is playing.

A woman’s suit

A set of clothes appropriate for a usually specified occasion or season, such as a swimming costume.

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

By Sara Jane

Life is a journey with the path laid out in front of us with all its twists and turns, ups and downs.

The landscape will change, sometimes you may feel as if you are travelling through a wilderness, at others a crowded city or sailing the wide open oceans and every step brings you closer to becoming yourself.

Life isn’t for sitting still and just watching the world go by it is about living, experiencing, growing into who you are.

I suggest looking back at your life so far, look at all the experiences you have had.

Some have been hard and hurt a lot, the downs, some have been great fun and have felt really rewarding, the ups and others have felt difficult, the twists and turns.

The rollercoaster of life.

Our greatest growth comes in the challenging times when the path has difficult terrain to traverse.

It is only with hindsight that we can see the true gift of these times, realising that the action we have taken have changed our lives completely.

We have to take the action ourselves if we wish to have any control over our lives.

Do you know who you are?

If you do, what were the circumstances that lead you to open to who you are?

If you don’t, then what is holding you back from finding yourself?

We are the only one who can do it for us, no one else can do it for you.

Very briefly, I was in a marriage I shouldn’t have been in, I felt stuck.

Then the dentist broke my jaw whilst extracting a wisdom tooth (quite ironic that really) resulting in 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

When you are that exhausted something has to give and for me that included being a people pleaser and my marriage.

Then the company I was working for got taken over and we were all going to be made redundant.

Was all this a down or was it in fact an up.

By taking the action of leaving my marriage, life started to move, I took the opportunity to relocate, to start a new life and truthfully, I haven’t looked back, other than to feel blessed.

That was the beginning of my growth, what was the beginning of yours?

In the process of all the changes, decision making and action, I found me.

I don’t see it as people changing, it is about growing, following your life path to find yourself and continuing to grow with every new experience that comes your way.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

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What does Art mean to You?

What does Art mean to You?

By Sara Jane

What do you think of when you hear the word Art?

Do you think about pictures and painting, oils and watercolours?

Do you think of the great artists including Constable & Picasso with their very different styles?

Or is music bought to mind, the classical composers such as Mozart and Benjamin Britten or modern-day composers such as Paul McCartney?

Do you think of photographers, sculptures, choreographers, architects, landscape gardeners, actors, singers, authors, designers? The list goes on.

Finally, do you think about yourself?

Had it occurred to you that you are the artist of your own life?

You were born with a blank canvas and every action, every experience you have adds colour and substance to your canvas.

Or you could choose the analogy of your life being like a book and every new day starts with a blank page. What story are you weaving into your life story today?

This morning as I was thinking about writing this article, I came across this quote by Sophie Bush

You are allowed to be both a Masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously”.

Had it occurred to you that you are a Masterpiece, that you were born perfect, that you were given everything that you require for the life you have chosen.

A little like a jigsaw puzzle, you have all the pieces and each day another piece fits into place.

When was the last time you looked at yourself and explored who you are, discovering something new about yourself?

A couple of years ago I discovered I could speak what I believe is our Soul Language, many call it Light Language.

Why was I so surprised, after all I channel many friends in the Mythical Realm including the Dragons, I also channel Reiki and Sound Energy in the form of Toning, so why not be a channel for our Soul Language as well?

Recently I connected with a gentleman in Holland, Jos of Yosiji Music, he took one of my spoken Soul Wisdom Messages and a sung one and used the magic of his art, creating music behind them.

I was amazed at what he did but more amazed at how he made me sound. I have never considered myself a singer but to my ears the sung message sounds wonderful.

The art of his work and mine…

You can watch/listen to it here

You are the Artist of your life, explore your gifts, have fun with them, experience them, share them, love them.

Don’t judge them or let others, they are uniquely yours.

Just as some love classical music and others love Punk Rock, some love traditional art and others prefer contemporary art, we are all different in who we are, in our likes and dislikes.

That is what makes this world such a beautiful work of Art.

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up” ~ Pablo Picasso

You can listen to Sara read the article in the video below

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

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Kudos to You

Kudos to You

By Sara Jane

I am sure many of us have heard or even used the word Kudos, I know I have but I thought I would check out its actual meaning.

Meaning ~ Kudos: Acclaim or prestige as a result of achievement or position: The prize gave him little material benefit but much kudos. From the Greek kudos: glory, fame

The Reader’s Digest Great Illustrated Dictionary

How much acknowledgement do you give yourself for your achievements?

When was the last time you took a look at your life and realised just how well you are doing?

There is a saying along the lines of “You have survived 100% of the challenges life has bought you”

Kudos to you for this.

What challenges has your life bought you?

Let’s start with the day you were born, yes being born was a challenge and you survived it.

You learnt to sit up, crawl, walk, run, talk. Then to read and write.

Kudos to you.

Your first day at school, making friends, sports, study, exams and so much more in your younger years.

I am sure like me you have had so many firsts in your life and continue to have.

Kudos to You

Life is a journey, a crazy roller coaster ride of ups and downs with the occasional short pause in which to get our breath before we are off again.

How often do you praise yourself, congratulate yourself for what you have achieved in a day?

It is for you to be proud of yourself, it doesn’t matter what others think, that’s their stuff, it is about how you feel about you.

No one else is walking in your shoes.

No one else has had your experiences and been affected by them, the way you have.

Be proud of yourself.

Kudos to you.

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

Ministry of Surprises

Ministry of Surprises

By Sara Jane

What do you consider to be a surprise?

Something that someone does for you, something in nature, a chance happenstance or all of these?

When was the last time you were surprised?

Well for me it was last week and nature was the bringer, or was she?

I became aware of an unusual plant in our front garden, I hadn’t planted it and neither had my partner, neither of us knew what it was.

Then earlier this week the full extent of the surprise was made clear to me. As I was posting to the Dragon Wisdom Twitter page, I saw a picture of the plant, a Dragon Flower, also known as Dragon Arum, Dragon Lily or Snake Lily: Dracunculus Vulgaris, this was the plant in our front garden.

Bearing in mind my connection with the Dragons, I love this gift from the Ministry of Surprises.

The more we are open to them, the more of them we become aware of.

When we moved into this house nearly 15 years ago, we did have a hedgehog in the garden, but haven’t seen any for years, then last Autumn, we saw another that hibernated in some straw we put out and in the Spring, we became aware of a pair. Such a lovely surprise.

Our garden is deliberately set up to be wildlife friendly, with bird feeders, plants, bundles of sticks (the Bees seem to love these to sleep in at night), 2 small ponds that the frogs and newts love plus the rest of the wildlife that drinks from them.

I wouldn’t have said much could surprise us in the garden any more but the ministry obviously has other ideas and we love it.

Do you sometimes surprise yourself?

I know I do, especially in my work, sometimes I find myself sharing something and wondering where it came from.

The biggest surprise for me over recent years was realising I speak what I call our Soul Language, what others call Light Language.

A couple of weeks ago my Mum, sisters and myself had a family video call and I mentioned it. My youngest sister already knew but Mum and middle sister were a little confused, so I was asked to share a little.

Mum’s reaction was lovely, she hadn’t known what to expect but she was surprised, it sounded like a language and I was so fluent in it, also her gentleman friend who was listening, commented that a member of his family also speaks it.

My middle sister has since asked me to share some more with her, feeling the energy without knowing what was said.

For me the Ministry of Surprises is aligned to our Soul and brings us surprises or gifts to help us feel supported, to guide us, to bring us joy, to move us forward, to let us know we are doing OK.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below which also includes a short Soul Language Message

Find the Lilt in Your Life

Find the Lilt in Your Life

By Sara Jane

Lilt, what do you understand as being its meaning?

I’ve heard the term the “Irish Lilt” to do with the way they speak but I wasn’t sure of its actual meaning, so I looked it up In The Reader’s Digest Great Illustrated Dictionary:

A light happy tune or song – A cheerful or lively manner of speaking marked by a pleasantly varied cadence – A light springing manner of moving or walking – To say, sing or play in a cheerful rhythmic manner – To speak, sing or play with liveliness or rhythm (from the Middle English “lultent” to sound, sing)

On starting to write this, there are 2 things that jump out at me, first I am part Irish, my Grandfather was born here in England of Irish parents and secondly, I work with Sound Energy in the form of Toning, which for some can sound like singing at times, especially when I tone someone’s name.

The more I work with Sound Energy, the more I see the difference it makes to people’s lives.

I watch them relax, their shoulders drop and there is a glow about their face and a spring in their step that wasn’t there before.

Think about your favourite music, possibly different depending on your mood or how you wish to feel.

Energetic to do the housework to, something you can sing along with, relaxing to help you unwind, fun if you feel like dancing round the house or garden.

Have you found the song that is in you, that is your Lilt?

I have a suggestion for you that may help.

I talk above about Toning someone’s name, have you ever experienced it?

Have you tried it for yourself, I mean saying or toning/singing your own name, it is very powerful and empowering.

If you are feeling uncertain, I suggest starting by saying your name, repeating it over and over. Say it with Love, Caring, Fun, Laughter, Joy, Happiness, allow the tone of your voice to change, smile and let go of self-consciousness.

Become comfortable with saying your name and slowly allow a lilt in, a little like a spring in your step, letting it build until you are toning/singing your name.

Use your first name and I suggest if you have changed your name you also bring in that name as well.

Very briefly the reason I suggest this is because although I was Christened Sara Jane, I was always Jane as a young child and I changed it to Sara.

When I do this for myself and I do, I always do a mix of Sara, Jane, Sara Jane, Jane Sara, honouring the whole of me, me of every age.

For me my song, my lilt is my name, it has taken time but I feel my life has been, is being, enriched by it.

I hope you will try this, give it time and find your Lilt, the song that will light up your life.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

The Grass is Always Greener

The Grass is Always Greener ~ Only when it is Watered

By Sara Jane

There is always so much going on in our lives, the everyday, the unexpected, the planned etc

Think about your life, which aspects are you giving your attention to?

Which bits are you putting most of your energy in to?

Are you concentrating on the things that fulfil you or that drain you?

Do you look at others and wish your life was more like theirs?

Do you look behind the screens and know how things really are for them?

Over 20 years ago, I knew my life wasn’t what I wanted, I felt like a slave in my own home, I felt ignored, undervalued, invisible.

The only person who could change that for me, was me – so I did, I bought my marriage to an end and moved out.

I know that makes it sound very simple and in some respects it was but it didn’t just happen, I had to make it happen, I had to take control of my own life and stop handing that control to others.

Granted there were no children involved, just 4 cats.

When I took control and got active in my own life, my life improved, this is what is meant by watering the grass.

It is up to us to be proactive in our own lives.

Do you have a garden with a lawn? If you don’t cut it, it gets out of hand.

The same with your life, if you don’t take control, things tend to get out of hand.

Is it a matter of finding the strength to do what is necessary, or just being so fed up with the situation, you’ve had enough and can’t take any more?

What is going through my mind at this point is, if we find the strength to do something and then do some thinking through, we then have a plan.

Yes, we could just go at things like a “Bull in a china shop” but a little thought, with a plan can make things a little easier.

Also, it is about remembering that there are usually others affected when we choose to make changes and we have no idea how they will react, the calmer we can stay the better.

I am not saying walk out of your marriage or leave you job, catch things before they go too far and you can find the grass in your own garden becomes so much greener, without moving to the other side.

“Remember No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

“You aren’t supposed to be happy all the time. Listen to your sadness and anger, they are trying to tell you something”

Just because someone threw you into Lake Inferior doesn't mean you have to keep swimming in it. You're better than that! ~ Bruce Van Horn

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

Animals ~ All Natures Creatures

Animals ~ All Natures Creatures

By Sara Jane

A ~ All

N ~ Nature

I ~ Insects

M ~ Mammals

A ~ Aquatic Life

L ~ Loved

S ~ Special

Animals, Nature, all Creatures, this is a topic very close to my heart.

I have always loved animals and for many years as a child and adult had pets.

I was also blessed for a short while to be a Trainee Handler at the UK Wolf Conservation Trust here in the UK – such amazing creatures.

Have you heard of Trophic Cascades? Have you seen either of these short videos?

“How Wolves Change Rivers” https://youtu.be/ysa5OBhXz-Q

“How Whales Change Climate” https://youtu.be/M18HxXve3CM

My love of animals goes back to my early childhood, my early life experiences left me very insecure around people but not with the family dog and cat, they where my friends, I felt safe and loved with them.

Don’t get me wrong I was loved by my family and well cared for but circumstances as a very young child had really affected me, all part of my healing journey but that is another story.

The more I learn about animals, the more I interact with them and spend time in Nature, the more I realise just how important all creatures are to a balanced echo system and the sustainability of our own lives.

In February 2000, I was lucky enough to be a part of a group that went out to Romania to track Wolves and Lynx in the Carpathian Mountain, through the Scientific Exploration Society in conjunction with the Carpathian Large Carnivore Project run by Christoph Promberger.

Because the only person for years that had been allowed to hunt the Wolves and Lynx was the President of the country, they had been relatively protected and the forests had been kept healthy because the Wolves kept the Deer in check.

If you watch the video above which is the Wolves in Yellowstone Park, you will hear that their re-introduction has meant the trees on the river banks are growing again because the Deer are no longer destroying them.

From the smallest creature to the largest, they all have a place, each needs to eat and many are food. Others support plant life and the loss of one creature anywhere in the system can cause havoc for all of them.

Some no longer have a predator to keep their numbers in check and others can be decimated because of that lack of food chain control.

This Planet, all her creatures are on loan to us from our children, we are meant to be the caretakers – How good a job do you think we are doing?

Animals in the pictures below, all taken by me – Deer at Arne, Dorset – Ocelot at a Leopard project in the UK - Dartmoor Ponies - Butterfly in my garden - Dolphins off the coast of Egypt in an area called Dolphin House - Wolves taken at the UK Wolf Conservation Trust – Puma at the same place as the Ocelot – Robin in my garden – Squirrel at Arne – Barn Owl at an Owl Sanctuary near to where I live – Bumble Bee in my Garden.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

Copyright © of All Pictures Sara Jane

Listen to Sara read this article in the video below

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