Tag Archive

Tag Archives for " Blog "

Masking Your True Identity

Masking Your True Identity

Worzel Gummidge is a character in a late 1970’s British children’s program, a walking, talking scarecrow who had 3 different heads for different occasions.

How many heads or masks do you have? Are they all authentically you?

And what is the difference between a head and a mask?

Think about it, really think about it; are you “different” depending on who you are with?

Do you feel there are aspects of yourself that you should keep hidden?

How open are you about what you think?

Do you agree to “keep the Peace” or do you express your own opinion?

I know I have very strong opinions about certain things, however I also accept that we are all entitled to our own opinions.

There was a time, for many years, when I was a Yes girl, I would agree even if I didn’t because I didn’t have the courage to speak up.

I wore a mask that covered a very unhappy person, someone who felt unworthy, not good enough, unlovable and very insecure; the truth was I didn’t know who I was.

I get it, I really do.

The day I lifted my mask and stepped into BEING ME, was the most amazing relief and feeling of Freedom.

I realised I hadn’t needed to hide, that there will always be people who don’t like you or get you, whatever you do or say and that is Okay.

The only person you cannot hide from is yourself, it doesn’t matter how many different masks you wear, it is still you beneath them.

Even if you could change your head, your beauty comes from your Heart, which is your connection to your Soul.

We all are who we are and there will always be people who love us and those that don’t.

So, shed your masks, show the world the beautiful and amazing Being that You are, it is what it is waiting for.

Let us revisit having different heads.

Think about your working life, your home life and how you are when you are out with friends.

These are all aspects of you and sometimes they overlap but a lot of the time we keep them separate.

In our work environment, we are business like, when we are out with friends we let our hair down and when we are with our family we are aware of our responsibilities.

This was really bought home to me some years ago, when a friend died.

There is a group of us that like to dance, go for walks, spend time together and yes let our hair down. During our get togethers we would take pictures and when Graham died we collected photos of him and turned them into 3 collages which we give to his 3 adult children.

They loved them, a wonderful memento of their Dad but their comment was, this was a side of their Dad they had never seen, an aspect of his life they had not been aware of.

Masks hide us from the world but having different “heads” is just about compartmentalizing our lives and being true to ourselves in all of our life.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

What is Normal?

What is Normal?

Whose Definition is it any way?

By Sara Jane

Many years ago, as a teenager, my parents ran a small hotel in Torquay, Devon.

During June, we had a small groups come to stay of Nuns and ladies who were “Mentally Handicapped” (the old terminology).

Even then I remember thinking who is the one with the handicap, they were taken care of, they were kept safe and were encouraged to go out and experience – seemed like a great life to me and I felt that those of us that went out to work were the ones with the greatest handicap.

Fast forward to 2000 and the terminology had changed to “Learning Disability/Difficulty”.

I started volunteering for Poole Council as a Shared Carer/Befriender with adults with learning disabilities and remember having a conversation with one of my ladies about my teenage experience and thoughts.

Although her initial reaction to the old terminology wasn’t good, by the time I had finished sharing my feelings of the time, she was more relaxed and smiled, understanding what I was saying.

We all have things we are good at and those things we struggle with.

Who is anyone to judge another if they struggle with technology or can’t paint or play a musical instrument.

We are not all here to be surgeons, architects, maestros, firemen, racing drivers, ballet dancers and the list could go on & on.

What is your normal is not someone else’s normal; we all have our own normal; that which is normal for us.

There are many people that society labels as not normal but they have their own strengths, some of them are far more capable in some areas than people who have studied for years. They have an innate ability that enables them to do things without training.

Some of the most brilliant people have no common sense, they would struggle to boil an egg but that is overlooked because of their brilliance.

I struggled at school, back then I felt useless, no good at anything because most of the time what was highlighted was what I couldn’t do, the things I struggled with, rather than those things that I was good at.

The more we concentrate on what children and adults can do, the more confident they become and the more each will be able to do.

So what if you can’t paint or dance or play an instrument, so what if you struggle with complicated maths or learning languages.

Find what you enjoy, be true to your gifts, that is your normal.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017