By Sara Jane
When you hear someone say you really should do that – there is no “should” about it.
It is your choice, listen to your gut instincts, your intuition, how does it feel to you?
Is the person who has said it doing it? Or are they just telling you “you should” because they don’t have the courage to or some other reason.
By all means it is great that we all share ideas and opportunities, but it is not for any of us to tell another what they should or shouldn’t do.
The simple answer is NO, unless it really resonates with you and you do it because you choose to, not because someone else has told you “you should”.
It is time to reset your thinking from should, must, have to, no choice etc.
Are there times when you feel you really should do something, even if you would prefer not to?
This is about making a judgement call and think about whatever it is and weighing it up.
Give it thought, think about the affects on you and others, think about the time and timing. Probably most important of all speak to anyone else that may be involved.
Your timing may not be their timing and vice versa.
Sometimes we are thinking about doing something out of kindness, like visiting someone who is sick or trying to be helpful to someone who is struggling.
If that is what you are thinking you “should” do, find out first and foremost if it is convenient and ask what works for them.
Many “shoulds, musts, have to’s” can end up leaving us wondering why we bothered because we thought we were being “nice” but it really didn’t work for the other involved.
Learning to talk to each other is a really great step forward. Someone knowing you are thinking about them may be all that is “required” and everyone is happy.
Many people have grown up being taught to think about others and not themselves.
Truth is none of us really knows what is going on in another’s life or head and we are not mind readers – so ask.
You can always say No and make an alternative suggestion.
It is time to reset your thinking about others, that it is good to offer help and support, it is also great to receive it, as, when and how it is appropriate for each individual.
There were times I found myself wanting to use the “should” word when writing this and I had to find another way of writing what I was trying to say.
To me the word “should” feels like I am being told I have to do something and we don’t have to do anything we don’t choose to do.
Sometimes it feels like we have Hobson’s Choice, that we have to make the best of what we feel is a bad situation but we still have a choice and if we actually had the courage to speak to people we could find that there are other choices or the whole thing could just go away.
Copyright © Sara Jane 2018
By Sara Jane
Think about it for a minute, which feeling do you call “a hunch”?
When I started to think about this I came to the conclusion that to me it is just another word for intuition or gut instinct.
You get “a hunch” that something feels “right” or “wrong”; so it is a “feeling”.
Do you listen to those “feelings”?
If you are anything like me you have had many occasions when you haven’t and later regretted it.
We get these “feelings” and then our head, mind, ego, whatever you wish to call it, chimes in “don’t be silly it’s just your imagination”, “ignore it, you want to do it, so do it” or “you can’t do that, what if this happens or that happens”.
Are you smiling? Can you hear these voices in your head?
Our minds/egos are very good at distorting our “feelings”, belittling them and we can be easily persuaded not to listen to the gentle voice of our soul.
Can you remember a time when you have acted on a hunch? When that niggling inner voice either didn’t get a chance to pipe up or you ignored it?
Think about it; look back on what happened and the outcome.
It may have been something very simple, it may have been something quite momentous; whatever it was, I’m guessing it was a positive outcome.
Open to your hunches, your intuition, they will not lead you astray and could be the start of many synchronistic happenings.
Many of the most amazing things that can happen in your life can be from you acting on a hunch or a whim.
Let variety and excitement into your life.
Listening has lead me on many an adventure, including going to Romania to work with the Carpathian Large Carnivore Project for 2 weeks in 2000.
I organised sponsored walks for adults with learning difficulties, including one with Wolves and arranging “Spirit of Freedom” a project which took people with learning difficulties to America to spend time with the Nez Perce Indians and to visit Yellowstone National Park.
Also learning Reiki and other complementary therapies and starting my own on-line TV program Gift of Healing TV.
Life has many gifts for us and sometimes they are “delivered” in hunches and intuition.
Let’s learn to throw caution to the wind and unwrap these gifts and listening to the hunches of warning.
Yes I have also had those and one such ended up with me going to the police about fraud; if I had listened to my initial instincts it would never have got that far.
Hunches are good and positive things, they are always worth listening to and following.
First shared in The Magic Happens Digital Magazine
Copyright © Sara Jane