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Unity of Self

Unity of Self

By Sara Jane

I am sharing this from my own understanding and experiences.

Looking back, I spent many years of my life feeling “in pieces”, with bits of me separated from me due to things that had happened and the way they made me feel about myself.

I will briefly share some of the more major things that happened that helped me disconnect from my true self, leaving me feeling unwanted, unloved, not good enough, unworthy and so much more.

Not long before my 1st Birthday (62 years ago at time of writing), an accident meant I was scolded by a boiling milk coffee that went all over my face and neck, causing the jumper I was wearing to stick to me skin.

I was hospitalised for 3 months with the hospital rules being that parents could visit for an hour every other day. The reality was once a week for an hour.

My parents had moved by the time I was allowed home, so it was to unfamiliar surroundings and Mum was pregnant with my Sister Gillian who was born August 1959 and died 9 weeks later.

Although there were other things that followed this was the grounding that left me feeling the way I did about myself and I became a people pleaser with the hope that I would be liked, even if only for a short period.

My wake-up call came in the form of a broken jaw, caused by a dentist extracting a wisdom tooth. I didn’t know it was broken for a week and the result was 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

Only as I am writing this does the irony hit me that it was a wisdom tooth and the support this experience gave me to tape into my own wisdom and understanding.

Within me was a traumatised child who felt rejected.

My healing journey really started with learning Reiki and Metamorphic Technique. They opened me to an understanding that when we are young and don’t know how to deal with things that hurt us, we detach or compartmentalise that part of us.

As we get older, if we feel we don’t have time to deal with something, we again put it to one side, usually never to be revisited.

But they don’t go away.

When working with a client one day I became aware that our Solar Plexus is like a well that we deposit everything undealt with in and it festers until eventually it causes a problem with our health.

As part of the work I bring now, I help people reconnect with and heal the younger selves. Supporting them to reintegrate them back into their life and start the process of becoming whole again.

I have done this for myself, the baby girl who felt so unloved and alone, is now comfortable and confident in my love and very much a part of who I am.

Yes, the most important person to love us, is ourselves and we are the only ones who can heal ourselves, yes with support but no one can do it for you.

With every layer of the onion comes a new healing a new reconnection and a new unity of self; confidence and belief in ourselves, a love that supports us to be our true self in all the glory that we are here to bring.

Whatever has happened in your life, know that you are worthy of all the love you give to others and that love should come from you first for every aspect of you, regardless of what you have been through.

My childhood experiences, along with my wake-up call in my late 30’s were a gift that now supports me to support others on their own healing journey to bring them Unity of Self.

I love this quote and feel it is relevant to what I have shared above.

“As traumatised children we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed it would in fact be ourselves as adults” ~ Alice Little

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Let Nature Be Your Guide

Let Nature Be Your Guide

By Sara Jane

There is so much we can learn from Nature, patients, perseverance, to rest, to Be.

There is a lovely quote along the lines of “Nature doesn’t hurry but everything gets done”.

The seasons come and go, the sun shines, it rains and snows, the winds blow, the flowers bloom and turn into seeds and fruits.

None of it is a competition, each knows what they are here for and they do it, beautifying the world, feeding us and the rest of Nature.

Nature knows how to Be in balance and she takes care of us.

Pick an aspect of Nature and let yourself think about the process of its life, the cycle that it goes through.

You could take rain, it falls to earth, watering all that it falls on, adding to the rivers and streams, the lakes, oceans and seas.

The sun shines and it evaporates back up into the sky and forms clouds that again bring rain.

All very simply put but that is the cycle and it works beautifully to support life here on Earth.

Trees and plants drop their seeds and grow new plants supporting the cycle of life.

Animals have young, as do humans, to support the ongoing cycle of life.

How complicated are you making your life?

Nature keeps it simple; she has found what works to support all life, with the inclusion of fire, storms and floods, that in their own way support clearing and regeneration.

She understands the importance of rest, of allowing each plant to grow at its own pace.

She has created diversity to support the whole of nature and every creature has its place and worth.

Nature gives us food and healing plants; she supplies us with all we need to live and thrive.

When Nature is out of balance it affects all life, including our own as we are all intertwined.

Let Nature be your guide, look to her to live a fulfilled life and to evolve into the amazing being you are, just like the Butterfly discovering your wings following a period of change.

2020 was a very difficult year for many, was this our period of change and growth, can you now spread your wings and fly in the full glory of who you are as a part of our beautiful Natural World?

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video above

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Unravelling the Costumes of Life

Unravelling the Costumes of Life

By Sara Jane

I looked up the meaning of costumes in the Reader’s Digest Illustrated Dictionary, you will find the definition at the foot of the article.

If you would prefer to listen to an audio of this article, you can listen to me read it below.

When I started thinking about costumes the first things that came into my head were swimsuits, then those worn by actors and actresses, then dancers and even members of a band, choir or orchestra.

What were your first thoughts?

Then I took my thoughts deeper and the title for the article came to mind. How many different types of clothes do we wear during our lives and are not many of these costumes?

Let’s explore further and see how many costumes you have worn in your life.

Starting from birth, especially at the time I was born, parents were more likely to dress the little girls in pink and the little boys in blue, so that when they were pushing their tiny little baby around, people would know if it was a girl or boy.

They may still do that but I have the feeling things have changed a little.

Then little girls wear skirts and dresses, and little boys wear trousers and shorts, well back in the 1950’s and to a degree in the 1960’s but all appears to have changed now.

If you are part of a religion there are outfits to do with religious services, Christenings/Baptisms maybe Christenings gowns, Holy Communion, Confirmation. Certainly, within the Roman Catholic Church the little white dress and veil, for the girls that is (smile), White shirts, black ties and shorts for the boys

They are costumes which show what is going on in your life.

Schools have uniforms which denote the school you go to, it is like a costume.

Going to work, do you have some sort of uniform? That uniform could be that you ware a suit as I have done in past employment.

Do you have to wear an overall? again I have done that.

Do you have to wear specific boots to protect your feet or head gear to protect your head?

The clothes and the equipment you wear again denote what you do and differentiate you from other people that may be wandering around, think about nurses and doctors, policemen and firemen, service men and women etc

If you are going to a Ball, you are not likely to be wearing jeans, you are more likely to be wearing a gown or dinner suit.

If you are going to a Pop Concert, the clothes you wear will be those that you feel are appropriate, which may not be appropriate to some but it will to you.

Whatever you are doing, the clothes you wear are a costume but they do not say WHO you are, just what is going on in your life at that point in time.

A funeral, the done thing is to wear black, navy blue, dark colours to be in mourning and respectful.

My Mother bucked the trend of that with my Dad when he past because I had a lovely pair of patchwork, very colourful trousers and apparently Dad loved to see me in those, so she asked me to wear them for his funeral, that included standing on the alter to read a piece from the Bible.

For me it was an honouring of my Pop, rather than the sadness that goes with funerals.

Are you truly honouring yourself in those times you can?

What are the clothes that you wear, look at them, are they you?

How many of the clothes that you wear are You, are that very unique special Being that you are, that you feel comfortable in, that you feel shows the world who you are, not the role you are in?

The clothes we wear are a costume.

We can take it a step further to adornments, jewellery.

Think about relationships, especially romantic ones that lead to an engagement and the fiancé wears an engagement ring it denotes that she is spoken for and then when they marry, she wears a wedding ring, so do many men.

That is part of a costume that shows that they are part of a couple, in the old days, it would show that the woman has become a chattel and belonged to the man.

Look around you are the clothes everybody wears, do you think that is really them or is it a fashion statement or something else?

Look at the clothes you have in your wardrobe what are the costumes, what do each of those items of clothing mean to you, what are they trying to show people about you?

Unravel the costumes in your life, the ones you have worn in the past, think about it, how many of those costumes were really you?

And I am going to take a bit of a punt here and say probably not many.

Are you ready to step out from behind those costumes, into ones that tell people more about who you are rather than what you do or what you are participating in?

This is your life, it is for you to live.

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

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Costume meaning: A complete style of dress including clothes, accessories and often hair style. Characteristics of a particular country, period or people.

A set of clothes worn for s play, film, fancy-dress ball or the like, designed to give the wearer the appearance of the role that he or she is playing.

A woman’s suit

A set of clothes appropriate for a usually specified occasion or season, such as a swimming costume.

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

By Sara Jane

Life is a journey with the path laid out in front of us with all its twists and turns, ups and downs.

The landscape will change, sometimes you may feel as if you are travelling through a wilderness, at others a crowded city or sailing the wide open oceans and every step brings you closer to becoming yourself.

Life isn’t for sitting still and just watching the world go by it is about living, experiencing, growing into who you are.

I suggest looking back at your life so far, look at all the experiences you have had.

Some have been hard and hurt a lot, the downs, some have been great fun and have felt really rewarding, the ups and others have felt difficult, the twists and turns.

The rollercoaster of life.

Our greatest growth comes in the challenging times when the path has difficult terrain to traverse.

It is only with hindsight that we can see the true gift of these times, realising that the action we have taken have changed our lives completely.

We have to take the action ourselves if we wish to have any control over our lives.

Do you know who you are?

If you do, what were the circumstances that lead you to open to who you are?

If you don’t, then what is holding you back from finding yourself?

We are the only one who can do it for us, no one else can do it for you.

Very briefly, I was in a marriage I shouldn’t have been in, I felt stuck.

Then the dentist broke my jaw whilst extracting a wisdom tooth (quite ironic that really) resulting in 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

When you are that exhausted something has to give and for me that included being a people pleaser and my marriage.

Then the company I was working for got taken over and we were all going to be made redundant.

Was all this a down or was it in fact an up.

By taking the action of leaving my marriage, life started to move, I took the opportunity to relocate, to start a new life and truthfully, I haven’t looked back, other than to feel blessed.

That was the beginning of my growth, what was the beginning of yours?

In the process of all the changes, decision making and action, I found me.

I don’t see it as people changing, it is about growing, following your life path to find yourself and continuing to grow with every new experience that comes your way.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

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Clouds Illusions

Clouds Illusions

By Sara Jane

When I started thinking about clouds the lyrics of a song kept going through my mind.

“It’s clouds illusions I recall, I really don’t know clouds at all”

I went for a walk in the local woods, as is my want and allowed my thoughts to turn to “clouds”.

I love to look at them, their shapes, the sun or moon behind them, their colours, especially at sunrise and sunset.

I allowed my thoughts to go deeper, to clouds being a metaphor for the “difficult” times in our lives.

When our thoughts can be clouded by suggestions and advice from all directions, when we don’t know which way to turn.

The sun is always there, shining for us, the love and wisdom of our heart and soul is always within us, it is about helping ourselves to clear the fog, the clutter.

Worry is a cloud in our lives, it stops us from living our lives, it can really get in the way of fun and laughter, of joy and happiness and growth.

For each of us it is about finding the way that works best for us to clear the clouds.

Gratitude for what you have.

Laughter when disruptive thoughts try to take control.

Confidence in yourself.

Loving yourself.

Believing in Yourself.

Affirmations, meditation, walks in the fresh air (that is where so much inspiration comes to me), exercise, a soak in the bath, silence and so many more ways that may work for you.

We are all beautiful beings but sometimes we allow the clouds in, they can be cleared, a good gust of wind can blow the cobwebs away, free us to live more fully and joyfully.

Not all clouds are thunder clouds, I love to look at the moon and when there is light cloud, on many occasions you can see a beautiful hallo around it.

Sometimes the clouds can help us see things more clearly or see things that we couldn’t if they weren’t there.

Everything comes to us as a gift, even the clouds, after all the plants need sun and rain to grow, so do we.

When we learn to see the gift in an experience, we allow the sun to shine through.

I looked the song up and had to smile at just how relevant the words are to the thoughts that came to me:

“Both Sides Now” by Joni Mitchell

“Rows and flows of angel hair
And ice cream castles in the air
And feather canyons every where
Looked at clouds that way

But now they only block the sun
They rain and snow on everyone
So many things I would have done
But clouds got in my way

I've looked at clouds from both sides now
From up and down and still somehow
It's cloud's illusions I recall
I really don't know clouds at all”

Words and Picture Copyright © 2020

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What Does Outside Mean to You?

What Does Outside Mean to You?

By Sara Jane

When you think about going outside, I am pretty sure most of you are thinking about leaving the house and going into the garden or the countryside for a walk, or into town, etc.

How about thinking outside the box or going outside of your comfort zone? And how do you do that?

May I suggest you give yourself some time to think about it…

In respect of the box, I suggest you throw it away and broaden your horizons, the only limits in your life are the ones you put there.

Your comfort zone is probably how and where you are living now. It may not be that comfortable but it is familiar and for many of you feels safe.

Are you really living your life, rather than just existing day to day in the same old routine?

When was the last time you did something new, something different, broke your routine?

How uncomfortable does your life need to get for you to risk making a change?

I get it, I really do, I spent too many years in relationships I shouldn’t have been in, doing jobs I hated.

I felt stuck in a rut lined with rose thorns, whilst my 2nd ex (yes, I took the plunge) was in a parallel rut lined with rose petals.

Eventually I took back control of my life after nearly 40 years of being a people pleaser and not knowing who I was.

Was it easy, No. It was very scary and the best thing I ever did for me.

I stepped outside my comfort zone and started to live my life, doing the things I wished to do, regardless of what others thought.

In the last 20 + years, I have moved town, changed careers twice, become self-employed, travelled and had some wonderful experiences, especially being a trainee handler at the UK Wolf Conservation trust (amazing creatures) and being part of an expedition to Romania to track Wolves and Lynx in the Carpathian Mountains through the Scientific Exploration Society with the Carpathian Large Carnivore Project.

Having decided to get out of my own way, I really went for it, making up for all that time of doing what I thought others wanted me to do and being so unhappy.

OK back to the question, how do you go about getting outside your comfort zone?

I have no doubt that there are many different answers, depending on the perspective you are coming from but for me the simplest answer is “Step back into yourself”

For me your comfort zone is outside of you, it isn’t who you truly are.

When you step back into yourself, you start to listen to your heart, your gut instincts, intuition and inspiration, you feel the rightness of what speaks to you.

Taking that first step is scary but it is O so worth it and the sense of freedom, like stepping out on to a beautiful mountainside, being on a boat on the ocean or enjoying the wind blowing through your hair, any sensation that brings you peace and contentment.

“Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

“If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” ~ Jim Rohn

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~ Brian Tracy

A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there ~ John Assaraf

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

Live Large: The Cameras are Flashing

Live Large: The Cameras are Flashing

By Sara Jane

Are you living large or acting small?

Are you the leading lady or man in your own life or playing a supporting role?

I spent so many years playing a bit part in my own life. Hard to believe now, I know but so very true.

Cameras are great for catching a moment in time, a birth, christening, engagement, graduation, marriage and so much more.

When was the last time you took a good look at old photos of yourself; I mean a really good look? Not just at the clothes and hairstyles but at your expression, the look in your eyes, were you truly happy?

My parents very sweetly gave an album of my life for my 50th, all I could see for many of my early years, was an unhappy child that rarely smiled. Bringing home just how much the traumas of my first 2 years had affected me.

I know what it is like to live small, it is very uncomfortable and can be very debilitating, always worrying about what others think about you, how you are being judged.

It is time to step out from behind the camera and be the lead in your own life.

Is there anything you would like to do, something you would like to learn, somewhere you would like to go?

By all means start small, or not, you could just take the bull by the horns and go large; what is speaking to you.

Pictures reveal more than you think, the camera can pick up more than the eye can see, whether in your life or in nature.

This is a picture taken by my Mother at St Nectans Waterfall in Cornwall.

For years, probably since my teens, I have taken photos, especially of waterfalls and thought they had been spoiled by splashes of water on the lens. Now I know better, my cameras have always picked up Orbs.

What are the photos of your life telling you about your life and what changes would you like to make to Live Large for those Flashing Cameras?

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

What does Art mean to You?

What does Art mean to You?

By Sara Jane

What do you think of when you hear the word Art?

Do you think about pictures and painting, oils and watercolours?

Do you think of the great artists including Constable & Picasso with their very different styles?

Or is music bought to mind, the classical composers such as Mozart and Benjamin Britten or modern-day composers such as Paul McCartney?

Do you think of photographers, sculptures, choreographers, architects, landscape gardeners, actors, singers, authors, designers? The list goes on.

Finally, do you think about yourself?

Had it occurred to you that you are the artist of your own life?

You were born with a blank canvas and every action, every experience you have adds colour and substance to your canvas.

Or you could choose the analogy of your life being like a book and every new day starts with a blank page. What story are you weaving into your life story today?

This morning as I was thinking about writing this article, I came across this quote by Sophie Bush

You are allowed to be both a Masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously”.

Had it occurred to you that you are a Masterpiece, that you were born perfect, that you were given everything that you require for the life you have chosen.

A little like a jigsaw puzzle, you have all the pieces and each day another piece fits into place.

When was the last time you looked at yourself and explored who you are, discovering something new about yourself?

A couple of years ago I discovered I could speak what I believe is our Soul Language, many call it Light Language.

Why was I so surprised, after all I channel many friends in the Mythical Realm including the Dragons, I also channel Reiki and Sound Energy in the form of Toning, so why not be a channel for our Soul Language as well?

Recently I connected with a gentleman in Holland, Jos of Yosiji Music, he took one of my spoken Soul Wisdom Messages and a sung one and used the magic of his art, creating music behind them.

I was amazed at what he did but more amazed at how he made me sound. I have never considered myself a singer but to my ears the sung message sounds wonderful.

The art of his work and mine…

You can watch/listen to it here

You are the Artist of your life, explore your gifts, have fun with them, experience them, share them, love them.

Don’t judge them or let others, they are uniquely yours.

Just as some love classical music and others love Punk Rock, some love traditional art and others prefer contemporary art, we are all different in who we are, in our likes and dislikes.

That is what makes this world such a beautiful work of Art.

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up” ~ Pablo Picasso

You can listen to Sara read the article in the video below

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Kudos to You

Kudos to You

By Sara Jane

I am sure many of us have heard or even used the word Kudos, I know I have but I thought I would check out its actual meaning.

Meaning ~ Kudos: Acclaim or prestige as a result of achievement or position: The prize gave him little material benefit but much kudos. From the Greek kudos: glory, fame

The Reader’s Digest Great Illustrated Dictionary

How much acknowledgement do you give yourself for your achievements?

When was the last time you took a look at your life and realised just how well you are doing?

There is a saying along the lines of “You have survived 100% of the challenges life has bought you”

Kudos to you for this.

What challenges has your life bought you?

Let’s start with the day you were born, yes being born was a challenge and you survived it.

You learnt to sit up, crawl, walk, run, talk. Then to read and write.

Kudos to you.

Your first day at school, making friends, sports, study, exams and so much more in your younger years.

I am sure like me you have had so many firsts in your life and continue to have.

Kudos to You

Life is a journey, a crazy roller coaster ride of ups and downs with the occasional short pause in which to get our breath before we are off again.

How often do you praise yourself, congratulate yourself for what you have achieved in a day?

It is for you to be proud of yourself, it doesn’t matter what others think, that’s their stuff, it is about how you feel about you.

No one else is walking in your shoes.

No one else has had your experiences and been affected by them, the way you have.

Be proud of yourself.

Kudos to you.

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

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Project or Project

Project or Project

By Sara Jane

When I saw the word “project”, I immediately had one meaning in mind and then realised there was another. The same word said slightly differently with 2 meanings (As below from the Reader’s Digest Illustrated Dictionary).

Project: A plan or proposal – An undertaking requiring concentrated effort – A research undertaking

Or

Project: To thrust outward or forward – To throw forwards, hurl, impel

Which was your first thought?

Are you working on a project at the moment or are you learning to project your voice?

If you are working on a project, especially in a group, it is important for you all to be able to share your thoughts and suggestions, to project & interject.

The most important project in anyone’s life is themselves. To learn and unlearn, to experience and grow, to feel.

To love yourself, have faith, belief and trust in yourself.

To take care of you, to listen to your heart, your gut instincts, your intuition and inspiration.

Learn to stand up for yourself and do what feels right for you, what speaks to you.

Speak your truth, listen to others, be open to alternative view points and always go with what feels right for you.

Projecting your voice to be heard doesn’t have to be about raising your voice, so much as the feeling you put into it.

Sometimes being softly but firmly spoken can get a point across better than anger.

Whatever is happening in your life at the moment, do you feel in control?

If not, why not?

Is it time to call a halt, to step back, talk to all those involved and listen to how everyone feels, their thoughts and share your thoughts and feelings.

Be prepared to take the lead, encourage change, support, leave, be true to you and you will give permission to everyone else to be true to themselves.

As one member of a group or family finds their voice, the rest start to feel more comfortable to use theirs.

So is it time for a new project, one that supports you to project your voice, thoughts and feelings, supporting you to follow your path to live your life’s journey in the way that feels right for you.

You can listen to Sara read this article in the video below

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