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Unity of Self

Unity of Self

By Sara Jane

I am sharing this from my own understanding and experiences.

Looking back, I spent many years of my life feeling “in pieces”, with bits of me separated from me due to things that had happened and the way they made me feel about myself.

I will briefly share some of the more major things that happened that helped me disconnect from my true self, leaving me feeling unwanted, unloved, not good enough, unworthy and so much more.

Not long before my 1st Birthday (62 years ago at time of writing), an accident meant I was scolded by a boiling milk coffee that went all over my face and neck, causing the jumper I was wearing to stick to me skin.

I was hospitalised for 3 months with the hospital rules being that parents could visit for an hour every other day. The reality was once a week for an hour.

My parents had moved by the time I was allowed home, so it was to unfamiliar surroundings and Mum was pregnant with my Sister Gillian who was born August 1959 and died 9 weeks later.

Although there were other things that followed this was the grounding that left me feeling the way I did about myself and I became a people pleaser with the hope that I would be liked, even if only for a short period.

My wake-up call came in the form of a broken jaw, caused by a dentist extracting a wisdom tooth. I didn’t know it was broken for a week and the result was 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

Only as I am writing this does the irony hit me that it was a wisdom tooth and the support this experience gave me to tape into my own wisdom and understanding.

Within me was a traumatised child who felt rejected.

My healing journey really started with learning Reiki and Metamorphic Technique. They opened me to an understanding that when we are young and don’t know how to deal with things that hurt us, we detach or compartmentalise that part of us.

As we get older, if we feel we don’t have time to deal with something, we again put it to one side, usually never to be revisited.

But they don’t go away.

When working with a client one day I became aware that our Solar Plexus is like a well that we deposit everything undealt with in and it festers until eventually it causes a problem with our health.

As part of the work I bring now, I help people reconnect with and heal the younger selves. Supporting them to reintegrate them back into their life and start the process of becoming whole again.

I have done this for myself, the baby girl who felt so unloved and alone, is now comfortable and confident in my love and very much a part of who I am.

Yes, the most important person to love us, is ourselves and we are the only ones who can heal ourselves, yes with support but no one can do it for you.

With every layer of the onion comes a new healing a new reconnection and a new unity of self; confidence and belief in ourselves, a love that supports us to be our true self in all the glory that we are here to bring.

Whatever has happened in your life, know that you are worthy of all the love you give to others and that love should come from you first for every aspect of you, regardless of what you have been through.

My childhood experiences, along with my wake-up call in my late 30’s were a gift that now supports me to support others on their own healing journey to bring them Unity of Self.

I love this quote and feel it is relevant to what I have shared above.

“As traumatised children we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed it would in fact be ourselves as adults” ~ Alice Little

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

Follow the Path of Growth to Becoming Yourself

By Sara Jane

Life is a journey with the path laid out in front of us with all its twists and turns, ups and downs.

The landscape will change, sometimes you may feel as if you are travelling through a wilderness, at others a crowded city or sailing the wide open oceans and every step brings you closer to becoming yourself.

Life isn’t for sitting still and just watching the world go by it is about living, experiencing, growing into who you are.

I suggest looking back at your life so far, look at all the experiences you have had.

Some have been hard and hurt a lot, the downs, some have been great fun and have felt really rewarding, the ups and others have felt difficult, the twists and turns.

The rollercoaster of life.

Our greatest growth comes in the challenging times when the path has difficult terrain to traverse.

It is only with hindsight that we can see the true gift of these times, realising that the action we have taken have changed our lives completely.

We have to take the action ourselves if we wish to have any control over our lives.

Do you know who you are?

If you do, what were the circumstances that lead you to open to who you are?

If you don’t, then what is holding you back from finding yourself?

We are the only one who can do it for us, no one else can do it for you.

Very briefly, I was in a marriage I shouldn’t have been in, I felt stuck.

Then the dentist broke my jaw whilst extracting a wisdom tooth (quite ironic that really) resulting in 6 months of pain and sleepless nights.

When you are that exhausted something has to give and for me that included being a people pleaser and my marriage.

Then the company I was working for got taken over and we were all going to be made redundant.

Was all this a down or was it in fact an up.

By taking the action of leaving my marriage, life started to move, I took the opportunity to relocate, to start a new life and truthfully, I haven’t looked back, other than to feel blessed.

That was the beginning of my growth, what was the beginning of yours?

In the process of all the changes, decision making and action, I found me.

I don’t see it as people changing, it is about growing, following your life path to find yourself and continuing to grow with every new experience that comes your way.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2021

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What does Art mean to You?

What does Art mean to You?

By Sara Jane

What do you think of when you hear the word Art?

Do you think about pictures and painting, oils and watercolours?

Do you think of the great artists including Constable & Picasso with their very different styles?

Or is music bought to mind, the classical composers such as Mozart and Benjamin Britten or modern-day composers such as Paul McCartney?

Do you think of photographers, sculptures, choreographers, architects, landscape gardeners, actors, singers, authors, designers? The list goes on.

Finally, do you think about yourself?

Had it occurred to you that you are the artist of your own life?

You were born with a blank canvas and every action, every experience you have adds colour and substance to your canvas.

Or you could choose the analogy of your life being like a book and every new day starts with a blank page. What story are you weaving into your life story today?

This morning as I was thinking about writing this article, I came across this quote by Sophie Bush

You are allowed to be both a Masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously”.

Had it occurred to you that you are a Masterpiece, that you were born perfect, that you were given everything that you require for the life you have chosen.

A little like a jigsaw puzzle, you have all the pieces and each day another piece fits into place.

When was the last time you looked at yourself and explored who you are, discovering something new about yourself?

A couple of years ago I discovered I could speak what I believe is our Soul Language, many call it Light Language.

Why was I so surprised, after all I channel many friends in the Mythical Realm including the Dragons, I also channel Reiki and Sound Energy in the form of Toning, so why not be a channel for our Soul Language as well?

Recently I connected with a gentleman in Holland, Jos of Yosiji Music, he took one of my spoken Soul Wisdom Messages and a sung one and used the magic of his art, creating music behind them.

I was amazed at what he did but more amazed at how he made me sound. I have never considered myself a singer but to my ears the sung message sounds wonderful.

The art of his work and mine…

You can watch/listen to it here

You are the Artist of your life, explore your gifts, have fun with them, experience them, share them, love them.

Don’t judge them or let others, they are uniquely yours.

Just as some love classical music and others love Punk Rock, some love traditional art and others prefer contemporary art, we are all different in who we are, in our likes and dislikes.

That is what makes this world such a beautiful work of Art.

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up” ~ Pablo Picasso

You can listen to Sara read the article in the video below

Copyright © Sara Jane 2020

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Sara’s Challenge for You

Sara Has a Challenge for You

The other day I became aware of some negative thoughts going through my mind and it got me to thinking.

How can I turn them into positive thoughts?

How can I take out all the negative words?

Easy you may think but here is the challenge, next time you catch yourself with a thought with negative words in it, find a wording that says the same without any of them.

Feel free to share your thoughts, your challenges with this. Share your initial thought and how you reworded it, I'd love to hear from you, here, on FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/TheSpiritof/ or Twitter: @SaraJaneOMF