By Sara Jane

How aware of ourselves are any of us?

And if we are aware of ourselves, how accepting of ourselves are we?

Do you know who you are beneath everything that everyone has told you to be and from others projections of who and how they have told you, you are?

For me the key is learning to unpick the layers of everything said, told and dictated by others about who they think we are or how we are.

After all, all of that is their stuff not ours.

It has taken years to get you to where you are today and it will take time to sift through everything and decide what feels like you and what feels wrong for you.

There is likely to be healing to go through and it will take time for you to move beyond the you, you became to please others.

As you become more aware of situations and circumstances in your past, your understanding can grow and support you to release with grace and love, and grow from your experiences.

Acceptance shouldn’t be blind, either about your own behaviour or others. It should come from understanding and acknowledgement, of your actions and reactions, a willingness to look into why you behaved in the way you did and whether it was really appropriate.

It also shouldn’t be to the detriment of you, understanding why others may be as they are, doesn’t make “bad” behaviour acceptable, in so far as they get away with it.

There are always consequences to actions for all of us, it is how we learn and grow.

As you become more aware of who and how you are, your quirks and differences (and we are all meant to be different, we were all born unique), accept who you thought you should be and accept who you are becoming.

You should be number one on your priority list not an afterthought.

We should love ourselves unconditionally at every stage of our journey, this rollercoaster we call life.

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