By Sara Jane
Give yourself time to forget
To just live in the Now
Allow yourself time to stop
To just be still
Listen to the sounds of silence
The sound of your own Heart beating
The sounds of Nature
Hear the music that surrounds you
Let yourself Feel
Feel the warmth of the sun
The caress of the breeze
The kiss of the rain
Open your Eyes
See the beauty and colour that surrounds you
The beautiful palette of Nature
From the sky to the earth and everything in between
Time to be with you
The whole of you
The you of all ages
The you with no worries or cares.
Time to break down the barriers you have hidden behind
Time to forget who others have told you, you are
Time to get to know you
To re-connect with yourself
Let yourself meet you
Get to know you
Learn to love you
To trust and respect you
You are a beautiful being
An amazing creation
A gift to the world
Be true to you
Give yourself permission to have me-time
Time to explore who you are
Time for fun and laughter
Time to leave the everyday behind for a while
Create a new reality for yourself
A reality of love & peace
Of trust and respect
Of fun and laughter
A reality in which you let go of judgement
You find the positive in all situations
You honour yourself and your journey
You honour others and their journey
Paths may cross
Some will walk with you for a while
Others may, for a lifetime
And others still, a passing smile or nod
Let yourself live your life
Follow your own path
Experience your own journey
This roller-coaster we call life
Give yourself permission to forget what has served its purpose
Remembering the lessons and gifts that each brings you
You are Special
Copyright © Sara Jane 2019
If you would like to hear Sara read this Poem, you can click on the video above
Humour ~ The Springboard to Your Soul
By Sara Jane
Humour, laughter, fun, joy, happiness – How do you feel when you experience these?
Do you feel connected?
Sadness, sorrow, anger, hurt, pain, annoyance, stress – How do you feel when you experience these?
How connected do you feel to anything when you experience these?
A sense of humour, fun and laughter are meant to be the largest part of what we experience here.
Even in times of bereavement, when you look back at things that happened with that person, you find fun and laughter, and it helps you to feel more connected to them.
When you find the joy, the happiness in the people you are with, the things you do, the places you go, when things feel “good”, when you feel yourself smiling and laughing, you are connecting with it and with your Soul.
Love and laughter live in harmony together, they are connected, they bring light into your life.
Your Soul, your true essence is Love and your Soul, your Spirit has a sense of humour.
Your Angels, guides and guardians all have a sense of humour, life has a sense of humour.
Connecting with that humour brings us closer to our true self, it helps us deepen our connection with our Soul. It supports us through the tough times and helps bring us back to ourselves.
I suggest giving yourself time to think about the questions I asked at the beginning. Allowing yourself to feel the energies that each brings up for you.
We all have choices, we can choose our mood – what are you choosing today?
Are you experiencing life the way you would really like to?
If not, you can choose to change things, just by adding some humour into your life and connecting more deeply with your Soul.
Allow yourself to reconnect with your child within, to the days and times of fun, freedom and frolics and bring these energies back into your day today living.
“He who lives in harmony with himself, lives in harmony with the world”
“Life is a mirror. Smile at it and it will smile back at you” ~ Peace Pilgrim
“Mind is not a dustbin to keep anger, hatred & jealousy. But it is the treasure box to keep Love, Happiness and sweet memories” ~ Buddha Quotes
Copyright © Sara Jane 2019
The Sweet Success of Rage
By Sara Jane
The definition of Rage according to “The Readers Digest Illustrated Dictionary”
“1.a. Extreme, vehement anger; fury b. a fit of anger – 2. Furious intensity, as of a storm or disease – 3. Burning desire or passion – 4. Informal A fade, a craze, very fashionable”
The rage I am referring to is anger.
Are you easily angered, or do you bottle up all those things that annoy you until you explode in a storm of rage?
I used to be the latter, I would bottle everything up and then the tiniest little thing would pop the cork and it was not a pretty sight.
It was a very rare occurrence but when it happened it was like a volcanic eruption and left me feeling totally drained.
I’m not proud of this, it was just a fact about me because back then I was so insecure, all I wanted to do was please people with the hope that folks would like me.
Saying No, doing something different, going against what others wanted, was not an option for fear of rejection.
Once I started, what I refer to as my “Healing Journey”, I came to realise just how destructive this bottling up was.
I also realised that all my thoughts about what people thought about me, well let’s just put it this way, most of the time they probably weren’t thinking about me because they had so much going on in their own lives.
This thought was actually a huge relief and I also came to understand that, if they were thinking about me, it didn’t matter anyway and what they were thinking was nothing to do with me.
I also realised that if something annoyed me, it was up to me to do something about it, not bottle it and if I could, “change” it and if I couldn’t do that, then I had other choices, I didn’t have to put up with it.
I started to realise that if something makes you angry, do something about it, let it out.
When you release it, it frees you, when you bottle it, it controls you.
I learnt to speak my mind, as kindly as possible but I learnt to honour myself and by letting go of the feelings of annoyance, anger & rage, I became more relaxed, calmer, happier (you could put so many different words here).
The success of expressing your anger and therefore letting it go, is freedom and a much happier you.
Copyright © Sara Jane 2018
By Sara Jane
When you hear someone say you really should do that – there is no “should” about it.
It is your choice, listen to your gut instincts, your intuition, how does it feel to you?
Is the person who has said it doing it? Or are they just telling you “you should” because they don’t have the courage to or some other reason.
By all means it is great that we all share ideas and opportunities, but it is not for any of us to tell another what they should or shouldn’t do.
The simple answer is NO, unless it really resonates with you and you do it because you choose to, not because someone else has told you “you should”.
It is time to reset your thinking from should, must, have to, no choice etc.
Are there times when you feel you really should do something, even if you would prefer not to?
This is about making a judgement call and think about whatever it is and weighing it up.
Give it thought, think about the affects on you and others, think about the time and timing. Probably most important of all speak to anyone else that may be involved.
Your timing may not be their timing and vice versa.
Sometimes we are thinking about doing something out of kindness, like visiting someone who is sick or trying to be helpful to someone who is struggling.
If that is what you are thinking you “should” do, find out first and foremost if it is convenient and ask what works for them.
Many “shoulds, musts, have to’s” can end up leaving us wondering why we bothered because we thought we were being “nice” but it really didn’t work for the other involved.
Learning to talk to each other is a really great step forward. Someone knowing you are thinking about them may be all that is “required” and everyone is happy.
Many people have grown up being taught to think about others and not themselves.
Truth is none of us really knows what is going on in another’s life or head and we are not mind readers – so ask.
You can always say No and make an alternative suggestion.
It is time to reset your thinking about others, that it is good to offer help and support, it is also great to receive it, as, when and how it is appropriate for each individual.
There were times I found myself wanting to use the “should” word when writing this and I had to find another way of writing what I was trying to say.
To me the word “should” feels like I am being told I have to do something and we don’t have to do anything we don’t choose to do.
Sometimes it feels like we have Hobson’s Choice, that we have to make the best of what we feel is a bad situation but we still have a choice and if we actually had the courage to speak to people we could find that there are other choices or the whole thing could just go away.
Copyright © Sara Jane 2018
I Am ~ Mastering Yourself
By Sara Jane
(If you would like to hear Sara Reading this article, you will find the video at the bottom of the page)
“I” is the most powerful word, whatever you put after it becomes your reality, especially when you give it real energy.
Be warned, keep everything positive.
I Want leaves you with the wanting
I Need leaves you with the Needing
Instead of I want Love or Need Love – I Am Love, be what you are seeking.
You have amazing power and that power lies within the “I”, the who you really are.
There are some friends of mind that work with “Shadow Work” and it dawned on me only this morning (which is why I am writing this now while the thoughts are still fresh in my head), Our comfort zone is in our shadow.
What do I mean by that?
For me our comfort zone is a place of fear, you think you are safe and you probably are, but it is not a place in which you can truly live your life.
It is a place of pleasing others, keeping the peace, not rocking the boat. A place of the humdrum, the so called “normal”. The place of follow the rules and don’t try anything different. The place where you listen to your head and not your heart.
So why do I say it is in our shadow?
Because to get out of your comfort zone you step back into yourself, you step back into listening to your heart, your intuition, your gut instincts; you are guided by what feels right for you and not the fear of what others may think.
You step into the light of the amazing being that you are and therefore everything outside of you is a shadow of who you are.
Let yourself take control of your own life; fear is false evidence appearing real.
Step out of your head and into your heart.
Think back on a time you did that; how did it feel? What reactions did you get from others? Did you even get a reaction from others and if it was a negative one, could that not just have been a bit of jealousy that you did and they didn’t?
I Am, is who you are. You are not a doing, you are a Being.
Have you heard the saying “A shadow of their former self”?
Whilst you live in your comfort zone, whilst you listen to your head and not your heart, you are a shadow of the person you really are.
A few of the affirmations I use daily are:
* “I Am the Love of My Life”
* “I Am Special, I Love me”
* “I Am Open to all the Help & Guidance Offered to Me”
* “I Am Love, Peace & Harmony”
It is OK to say these and believe them.
When I first started, I didn’t believe and then one day I realised, I do and it is OK; I Am Love, I Am Special, so is everyone else, we are all equal in our own unique way.
It is time to be OK with “I Am Me” whoever your “Me” maybe; be the unique Being you are, bring your special talents and gifts to the world, we are all waiting for them.
How do you “Feel” when you follow your heart?
How do you “Feel” when you listen to your head?
Only you can answer these questions and only you can decide how you are going to continue with your life from this moment on – “I Am” and live your life as a Being or “I do” and just exist because you are afraid of what others may think.
Say after me “I Am Special, I Love me” “I Am the Love of My Life”
Feel it, Mean it, Be it.
Love, Peace & Light Sweet Soul
What is Normal?
Whose Definition is it any way?
By Sara Jane
Many years ago, as a teenager, my parents ran a small hotel in Torquay, Devon.
During June, we had a small groups come to stay of Nuns and ladies who were “Mentally Handicapped” (the old terminology).
Even then I remember thinking who is the one with the handicap, they were taken care of, they were kept safe and were encouraged to go out and experience – seemed like a great life to me and I felt that those of us that went out to work were the ones with the greatest handicap.
Fast forward to 2000 and the terminology had changed to “Learning Disability/Difficulty”.
I started volunteering for Poole Council as a Shared Carer/Befriender with adults with learning disabilities and remember having a conversation with one of my ladies about my teenage experience and thoughts.
Although her initial reaction to the old terminology wasn’t good, by the time I had finished sharing my feelings of the time, she was more relaxed and smiled, understanding what I was saying.
We all have things we are good at and those things we struggle with.
Who is anyone to judge another if they struggle with technology or can’t paint or play a musical instrument.
We are not all here to be surgeons, architects, maestros, firemen, racing drivers, ballet dancers and the list could go on & on.
What is your normal is not someone else’s normal; we all have our own normal; that which is normal for us.
There are many people that society labels as not normal but they have their own strengths, some of them are far more capable in some areas than people who have studied for years. They have an innate ability that enables them to do things without training.
Some of the most brilliant people have no common sense, they would struggle to boil an egg but that is overlooked because of their brilliance.
I struggled at school, back then I felt useless, no good at anything because most of the time what was highlighted was what I couldn’t do, the things I struggled with, rather than those things that I was good at.
The more we concentrate on what children and adults can do, the more confident they become and the more each will be able to do.
So what if you can’t paint or dance or play an instrument, so what if you struggle with complicated maths or learning languages.
Find what you enjoy, be true to your gifts, that is your normal.
Copyright © Sara Jane 2017