By Sara Jane

The definition of Rage according to “The Readers Digest Illustrated Dictionary”

“1.a. Extreme, vehement anger; fury b. a fit of anger – 2. Furious intensity, as of a storm or disease – 3. Burning desire or passion – 4. Informal A fade, a craze, very fashionable”

The rage I am referring to is anger.

Are you easily angered, or do you bottle up all those things that annoy you until you explode in a storm of rage?

I used to be the latter, I would bottle everything up and then the tiniest little thing would pop the cork and it was not a pretty sight.

It was a very rare occurrence but when it happened it was like a volcanic eruption and left me feeling totally drained.

I’m not proud of this, it was just a fact about me because back then I was so insecure, all I wanted to do was please people with the hope that folks would like me.

Saying No, doing something different, going against what others wanted, was not an option for fear of rejection.

Once I started, what I refer to as my “Healing Journey”, I came to realise just how destructive this bottling up was.

I also realised that all my thoughts about what people thought about me, well let’s just put it this way, most of the time they probably weren’t thinking about me because they had so much going on in their own lives.

This thought was actually a huge relief and I also came to understand that, if they were thinking about me, it didn’t matter anyway and what they were thinking was nothing to do with me.

I also realised that if something annoyed me, it was up to me to do something about it, not bottle it and if I could, “change” it and if I couldn’t do that, then I had other choices, I didn’t have to put up with it.

I started to realise that if something makes you angry, do something about it, let it out.

When you release it, it frees you, when you bottle it, it controls you.

I learnt to speak my mind, as kindly as possible but I learnt to honour myself and by letting go of the feelings of annoyance, anger & rage, I became more relaxed, calmer, happier (you could put so many different words here).

The success of expressing your anger and therefore letting it go, is freedom and a much happier you.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2018