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The Sweet Success of Rage

The Sweet Success of Rage

By Sara Jane

The definition of Rage according to “The Readers Digest Illustrated Dictionary”

“1.a. Extreme, vehement anger; fury b. a fit of anger – 2. Furious intensity, as of a storm or disease – 3. Burning desire or passion – 4. Informal A fade, a craze, very fashionable”

The rage I am referring to is anger.

Are you easily angered, or do you bottle up all those things that annoy you until you explode in a storm of rage?

I used to be the latter, I would bottle everything up and then the tiniest little thing would pop the cork and it was not a pretty sight.

It was a very rare occurrence but when it happened it was like a volcanic eruption and left me feeling totally drained.

I’m not proud of this, it was just a fact about me because back then I was so insecure, all I wanted to do was please people with the hope that folks would like me.

Saying No, doing something different, going against what others wanted, was not an option for fear of rejection.

Once I started, what I refer to as my “Healing Journey”, I came to realise just how destructive this bottling up was.

I also realised that all my thoughts about what people thought about me, well let’s just put it this way, most of the time they probably weren’t thinking about me because they had so much going on in their own lives.

This thought was actually a huge relief and I also came to understand that, if they were thinking about me, it didn’t matter anyway and what they were thinking was nothing to do with me.

I also realised that if something annoyed me, it was up to me to do something about it, not bottle it and if I could, “change” it and if I couldn’t do that, then I had other choices, I didn’t have to put up with it.

I started to realise that if something makes you angry, do something about it, let it out.

When you release it, it frees you, when you bottle it, it controls you.

I learnt to speak my mind, as kindly as possible but I learnt to honour myself and by letting go of the feelings of annoyance, anger & rage, I became more relaxed, calmer, happier (you could put so many different words here).

The success of expressing your anger and therefore letting it go, is freedom and a much happier you.

Copyright © Sara Jane 2018

I Am ~ Mastering Yourself

I Am ~ Mastering Yourself

By Sara Jane

(If you would like to hear Sara Reading this article, you will find the video at the bottom of the page)

“I” is the most powerful word, whatever you put after it becomes your reality, especially when you give it real energy.

Be warned, keep everything positive.

I Want leaves you with the wanting

I Need leaves you with the Needing

Instead of I want Love or Need Love – I Am Love, be what you are seeking.

You have amazing power and that power lies within the “I”, the who you really are.

There are some friends of mind that work with “Shadow Work” and it dawned on me only this morning (which is why I am writing this now while the thoughts are still fresh in my head), Our comfort zone is in our shadow.

What do I mean by that?

For me our comfort zone is a place of fear, you think you are safe and you probably are, but it is not a place in which you can truly live your life.

It is a place of pleasing others, keeping the peace, not rocking the boat. A place of the humdrum, the so called “normal”. The place of follow the rules and don’t try anything different. The place where you listen to your head and not your heart.

So why do I say it is in our shadow?

Because to get out of your comfort zone you step back into yourself, you step back into listening to your heart, your intuition, your gut instincts; you are guided by what feels right for you and not the fear of what others may think.

You step into the light of the amazing being that you are and therefore everything outside of you is a shadow of who you are.

Let yourself take control of your own life; fear is false evidence appearing real.

Step out of your head and into your heart.

Think back on a time you did that; how did it feel? What reactions did you get from others? Did you even get a reaction from others and if it was a negative one, could that not just have been a bit of jealousy that you did and they didn’t?

I Am, is who you are. You are not a doing, you are a Being.

Have you heard the saying “A shadow of their former self”?

Whilst you live in your comfort zone, whilst you listen to your head and not your heart, you are a shadow of the person you really are.

A few of the affirmations I use daily are:

      ​* “I Am the Love of My Life”

      ​* “I Am Special, I Love me”

      * “I Am Open to all the Help & Guidance Offered to Me”

      * “I Am Love, Peace & Harmony”

It is OK to say these and believe them.

When I first started, I didn’t believe and then one day I realised, I do and it is OK; I Am Love, I Am Special, so is everyone else, we are all equal in our own unique way.

It is time to be OK with “I Am Me” whoever your “Me” maybe; be the unique Being you are, bring your special talents and gifts to the world, we are all waiting for them.

How do you “Feel” when you follow your heart?

How do you “Feel” when you listen to your head?

Only you can answer these questions and only you can decide how you are going to continue with your life from this moment on – “I Am” and live your life as a Being or “I do” and just exist because you are afraid of what others may think.

Say after me “I Am Special, I Love me” “I Am the Love of My Life”

Feel it, Mean it, Be it.

Love, Peace & Light Sweet Soul

What is Your Comfort Zone?

What is Your ​Comfort Zone?

By Sara Jane

When you saw the title of this article, what was the first thought that came to mind?

What do you consider your comfort zone to be?

(A little background - I am writing this on Tuesday 12th September 2017.

Tomorrow, Wednesday 13th I am recording a short Thoughtful Nuggets & Pearls inspirational program with Jaki Bent, my Sister, creator of The Emotional Baggage Diet and founder of If Everyone Cares.org and ODODOW.org. Our topic is 360 Degrees: How Big is your Comfort Zone?)

Every now and again I see little one liners that I like, so I write them down, I have 2 on a piece of paper at the side of me at the moment “I didn’t change, I just woke up” (Unknown) & “Journey into yourself” (The Journey into yourself by Eckhart Tolle & To Travel is to Journey into Yourself – Danny Kaye).

Yesterday I looked at these and wondered if they may be relevant to the Comfort Zone topic and slowly thoughts/feelings started, nothing I could pin down but I knew there was something there.

Then this morning it came to me whilst I was out for my morning walk.

Our Comfort Zone is a place outside of us, if we truly wish to step out of our comfort zone, we need to step back into ourselves.

Back into our heart, listen to our intuition and gut instincts, become again the person we were born to be, the person we were before we let outside influences change us.

Then came the biggy for me, our comfort zone is built from fear. Fear keeps us in a place where we can hopefully not get hurt, not make mistakes, not trip up, not make a fool of ourselves – how many more reasons can you think of for staying in your comfort zone and how many of them are negative reasons?

To me the role of our mind when we were young was to keep us safe, protect us (a role it takes very seriously) and to learn, to help us to grow.

Why have I put them in that order, because I believe our minds are still trying to protect us to the detriment of growth, to living our lives and following our paths. It is still treating us like the tiny baby and very young child that we left behind long ago.

To help us move out of our comfort zone and back into living life, the role of our mind has to change.

It is important that we thank it for taking such good care of us as a child and we ask it to please accept a new role, a more fun role, a role of empowerment, learning and growth. A role that still protects and helps us to live life to the fullest at the same time.

It is time to free ourselves by journeying back into ourselves, becoming true to ourselves.

It is time to learn the difference between the “fear” of being burned by a fame, stepping off a great height, jumping into raging waters and the “fear” of thought that has no true foundation.

By all means listen to those fears, be aware of them and as the saying goes “Feel the fear and do it anyway” (a book by Susan Jeffers).

I lived many years in a comfort zone that was far from comfortable, in the end it became so uncomfortable I had to get out.

Now I think back on it, when I did take that leap life changed for me in so many amazing ways and it was because I went looking for me and found me in all the rubble I had dumped on me over the years.

I pulled myself out and started to live my life and you can do the same and the amazing thing is, it was easier than fear had lead me to believe.

If you would like to watch/listen to the program Jaki and I shared you will find it HERE

Copyright © Sara Jane 2017

Life: A Risky Business

Life: A Risky Business

By Sara Jane

Risk: the possibility of suffering harm or loss; danger

What risks are you taking on a daily basis?

Or do you prefer to live your life without taking any?

Well here is some food for thought for you to consider “Doing nothing can be more risky than going something”.

Being afraid to go out “just in case …..” holds its own risks.

  • First it can affect your health – no fresh air and sunshine is bad for you; this also usually means a lack of exercise. They are all essential for good health.
  • If you only do the minimum such as go to work and come home again to minimise risk – Do you drive a car? You are getting into a lethal weapon. If you catch a bus, you are a passenger in an even bigger lethal weapon. If you walk are you really any safer?

So bearing in mind that every day you take risks, why not make them risks worth taking?

Step out of your comfort zone, start to live your life and you will discover that “risking” nothing was a bigger risk than taking the plunge.

Life is for living, for experiencing; free yourself from fear.

Fear is: False Evidence Appearing Real

Risk is: Rejoicing In Scary Kicks

Yes you should get a kick out of life; fun and laughter, embracing change.

Ignore the worry mongers, the “what ifs”, the “what about” and all the other excuses you find not to do something.

Listen to your heart, listen to your feelings, listen to your intuition, listen to your gut instincts.

Quiet your mind, feel the fear and do it anyway.

In April I was treated to the experience of the Zip Wire in Bournemouth where I live.

Right up to the point of stepping off the platform I was fine, even relaxed and confident.

Suddenly all my nerves jangled, what was I doing; I had to step off the platform and rely on the ropes to hold me.

Yes I felt the fear, but I had been looking forward to doing it; I wasn’t really afraid, for goodness sake I had abseiled off the Water Tower in Poole.

So I took a deep breath and stepped off, it was great and I am so pleased I did it.

Think about your life, think about the mad and crazy things you have done.

Remember the feelings, the exhilaration, the laughter, the joy, the fun.

With every risk you take, with every new experience you grow and you become more of the person you are meant to be.

If you are encouraged to do something that feels wrong to you, have the courage to risk saying NO.

Yes “risk” comes in many forms but better to risk a faulty misjudgment of you, than to risk the feelings and consequences of doing what you know to be “wrong”.

Always Be True to YOU

zipwire-experience

Yes this is me on the Zip Wire

First shared in the Digital Magazine “The Magic Happens”

Copyright © Sara Jane