Do we Change or do we Grow?

By Sara Jane

“Growth is when you finally get tired of being okay with things you’re not actually okay with.”

We always talk about growing older and wiser but when others perceive an adjustment in our behaviour or reactions, they refer to it as us having changed.

Usually in a tone that suggests they don’t like it.

But have we changed or just outgrown the person we were that put up with things until we understood more about what was really going on?

We have grown wise to other people’s ways of trying to bend us to their will and now it is time to be more considerate of our own choices.

So do we change or is it more that our eyes, ears, mind and understanding have opened to the fact that things don’t have to be the way they are.

Are we learning that there are alternative ways of being, behaving, reacting and acting, which are more beneficial to a wider group than just a single person?

The saying “Everything in life changes” and yes systems, ways of doing things, manufacturing, selling, operating and so much more within the fabric of life changes.

But people, personally I believe we grow from our experiences and what they teach is.

We don’t “change” stronger, we “grow” stronger, we outgrow adolescent behaviours, crushes, the moody teenage phase and we can outgrow people pleasing and being a “YES” person.

We talk about growing up, not changing up.

So next time someone tells you “You have changed”, that is their interpretation, their perception and what they really mean is you have grown.

Grown stronger in your awareness of self, in your acceptance of self and you have the strength of being to say No to what doesn’t fit with who you are.

Always trust and believe in yourself, you are special and no one is more or less special than you.

Namaste Sweet Soul