By Sara Jane

Are you always totally honest and truthful with yourself?

You know you can’t lie to yourself.

However hard you may try to convince yourself of something that doesn’t resonate with you, your body, heart and soul always know the truth.

Only when you start being honest and truthful with yourself, will you be able to do the same with others.

It is time to stop disrespecting yourself and those around you, with less than the truth.

Say yes, when you mean yes and no, when you mean no.

If something changes in your life and it is going to affect others, let them know as soon as possible, rather than leave it till the last minute, letting them down and making it difficult for them to do anything about any changes they have to then make.

Being thoughtful and considerate of others, especially if circumstances mean you have to let them down, is essential.

Yes, it is hard to tell people the truth but it gets harder the longer you leave it and then leaves them wondering if you can be trusted.

I am speaking from experience, especially of having been a people pleaser for so many years, it became habit to say yes and regret it afterwards but I always followed through.

I was disrespecting myself and them by not being true to me.

It has taken time to adjust and I get it, it isn’t easy but when we are honest, if another doesn’t like it, it is their problem not ours.

Always give the courtesy of as much time as possible to others, if you have to change things, don’t hold off, it won’t go away, it just becomes harder and is disrespectful to all involved.

You know you are better than that.

Think about how you feel when people let you down at the last minute, then discover they have known for potentially several weeks…

As the saying goes “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”.

Yes, it is important do what is right for us but it is also important to have respect for others and be honest with them, it makes for a lot less stress in our lives, in the long run.

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